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Normal? Or is my anxiety out of proportion?

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bippityboppity87 · 11/11/2021 21:43

I've always been a little anxious from time to time, but I feel like it's starting to get bad again

For context, I have bipolar and adhd, which can be challenging in itself

This might sound a bit all over the place, so I apologise in advance as I'm not always particularly articulate

Just before the first lockdown last year I was having severe panic attacks. My gp prescribed some diazepam, which helped a little bit not massively. Kind of ok after that, but I think it was mainly down to lockdown in general and having the option to just be alone. Went back to work, again, fine, which I still am and happy to talk to other people who are working with me, even new people, no issue

But, when it comes to meeting people outside that "bubble" for example, I'm supposed to go to soft play tomorrow with another mum that I barely know, I don't want to go. I can't cancel. But even now I want to hide in my house just thinking about it

I don't know if it's because I'm masking? I'm not really sure

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Elfblossom · 11/11/2021 22:33

Do you have any support?

Does your new friend know about your anxiety? Have you told them? 'I really want to come to soft play, just letting you know in advance that I'm feeling anxious about going somewhere new'.

Can you identify whats making you anxious? Not knowing how to get there? Not knowing the layout, going with a new friend?

Juniper68 · 11/11/2021 23:08

I agree with telling the friend.

If you can go it may help on the long run. Panic is awful though Sad

Juniper68 · 12/11/2021 13:54

bippityboppity87 how did you get on?

bippityboppity87 · 12/11/2021 18:31

Thank you for all your replies

It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I'm
So bad for that, always make it much worse in my head than what it actually is when I get there. I'm guessing goes hand in hand with anxiety. Really hate it though. I've tried CBT in the past, but it didn't really help. Although I'm
Sure I read somewhere that CBT isn't particularly helpful for those who are neurodivergent. I've also often wondered if I'm maybe on the spectrum as well, but I'm really not sure

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Juniper68 · 12/11/2021 19:27

bippityboppity87 that's good that you went.

Sounds like you castatrophise. Maybe some distraction techniques may help? Or emotional freedom technique?

bippityboppity87 · 12/11/2021 19:45

@Juniper68 oh yes I definitely do that 😂 I hate being out of my comfort zone and need a routine. I have sensory issues as well, which just adds to it. If I'm ever leaving the house on my own, I make sure I have headphones for this reason

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Juniper68 · 12/11/2021 20:31

That's good you know what helps.

Elfblossom · 13/11/2021 10:23

Get this book, read it to your little one/ones and allow it to sink in for you too ... it helped me more than CBT.

The Worrysaurus www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1408356120/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_8GVZ25XFN6X432PRAZ9P?psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=mumsnetforu03-21

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