Husband losing things

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My dh regularly loses things. He always says that I moved the item. When this happens, he gets angry and frustrated. This makes me feel really anxious and my chest feels tight. He's just popped out and could not find his hat. He says he is going to rip the kitchen apart to find it when he gets back. I'm now searching for it

My partner has a habit of doing this - it's extremely frustrating. If he's lost something of his, he has a way of wording it that makes it sound accusatory and that I had something to do with it. 9 times out of 10 he finds the thing and it's clear it was nothing to do with me. I feel it's a form of gaslighting, maybe unintentional if that can happen but it's unhealthy.

Blimey, he's using scare tactics on you. And it's working.

Tell him to find his own shit and stop enabling this behaviour.

I put up with this until the time he actually called me at work wanting to know where I'd put his wallet. I told him I was so sorry and didn't how to tell him, something had come over me and I had put his wallet in the bin. This ended the phone call in stunned silence from him. Some minutes later he called again. He had emptied out the large kitchen bin and it was not there. I pointed out I had put it in the communal bin outside. I then broke down and told him I had in fact not seen or touched his wallet. He stopped asking me where stuff was.

@ItsDinah that's fabulous !