Embarrassed

[Bambi7]

Hello 👋🏼

I just need a bit of support really.

The other day I was chatting to a small group of parents and I said something a little awkward and then it went silent. I decided (without thinking) to fill the silence but my words wouldn't come out. I could feel them all staring at me and no one said anything. I managed one or two incoherent words with a pause or two and then one of the mums looked down at the floor and muttered something back in reply. The conversation then moved on but I couldn't even listen to reply to it because I was so embarrassed.

I honestly feel so stupid and so humiliated. I drove home so frustrated and disappointed in myself. I couldn't even function when I got home.

Has anyone else had similar happen to them. Or am I the only bloody freak?!! 🙈

I'm an old hand at this kind of thing. I'm autistic and often have awkward moments just as you describe. The main thing you should remember is nobody cares that much. You can beat yourself up for days over it but the reality is it was a minor moment in one of many many conversations those people had that day. They won't even think about it. Be kind to yourself, it's not that bad!

@Bambi7 i too have been there. You feel like you would like the ground to swallow you up!
I have been really sensitive in the past, and often still am, about what I have said, and can reflect for days kicking myself about what I said and how I said it.

I am slowly learning or maybe 'training' myself to not replay things over and over again in my mind. I really do not think anyone will give it a second thought, or if they do, they won't think it as half as bad as you did! They will have moved on and forgotten about it already. Also everyone around that table will have been in your shoes at some point. Deep breath, be kind to yourself

Thank you @LennyMurdoch and @DirtyDancing for replying and making me feel like I'm not alone.

It's made me realise how poor my mental health is. I feel that I am getting more socially awkward as time goes on, maybe that's due to my depression/anxiety getting worse.

I'm really trying to socialise for my DC when in reality all I want to do is hide under my duvet.

Me too I have actually gone home crying and not stopped thinking about how stupid I must of sounded at what I said . Honestly everyone had been there . Don't lose another second worrying about it it's 100 percent forgotten about . Also if you ever get talking again and it's still playing on your mind just say somthing like sorry about last time I suffer with anxiety and was having a bad day x

It really does feel like the end of the world doesn't it. It was definitely noticed as I could tell by their reaction. I'm worried they will think I'm weird and socially awkward so might avoid me. Only time will tell. In the mean time I need to try and act as normal as possible 😬.

I now have to add social anxiety to my list of problems. I thought I was ok socially but judging by the last 6 or so months I'm not.

I've really tried to overcome it by not saying no to things and repeatedly going to parties / events but I'm actually getting worse. It's like the more I get to know someone the worse I get. I'm feeling so frustrated and will do anything to try and overcomes these moments.

By not saying no to things*

I have probably been to hundreds of toddler groups over the years. Not once can I remember anyone saying something embarrassing. I am sure they did but I wouldn't register it. Or if I did I would just have sympathy. Anyone holding this against you is not worth a second thought and best avoided anyway. I wouldn't work on being 'normal' just enjoy with no pressure on yourself. It's tough enough getting out in the first place.