This is long.
- 35
- single Mum
- 3DC
- student
- I have ADHD/PTSD
- been under Psych for 2 years
- on multiple medications
- DD2 (aged 10) under CAMHS and awaiting ADHD/ASD referral
I was given a S21 in July, that runs out at the end of January. Private rental prices have gone up by almost 1/3 due to demand outstripping supply; this also means that nobody wants to rent to me.
I applied for a council house in July and my application still hasn’t been processed, nobody ever answers the phone or responds to emails.
I’m aware I’ll have to wait for my landlady to get a Possession Order via court before the council will actually help me properly.
Every day there are news stories from my local paper about mother’s being moved from hotel to hotel, all over the county, who have to had leave their jobs/their DC can’t attend school due to a massive lack of temp accommodation and permanent accommodation.
This would be fucking horrific for me and all of my children, my eldest is 13 snd she bottles things up, my 10YO is seriously unwell and dismantled a pencil sharpener at school, took the blade to the toilet and cut herself to ribbons, and my 5YO is rather highly strung too.
I don’t/can’t drive.
Not to mention the cost of storing all our furniture and how I’d cart our daily belongings around, and feed us as my youngest has dairy allergies and I have Coeliac disease.
I caught Covid in January and attempted to do as much Uni work as possible; however I only managed to complete 2/3 of my second year and I’m finishing the rest this year. Covid was not mild for me. It’s a STEM degree so not easy, high contact hours, I’ve had no lab time, and it should provide me with a decent income when complete (I have plans to do a Masters too).
I have no family to help or support me, my elderly grandparents don’t need the worry, my ex talks the talk but won’t Guarantor for me despite the fact I’ve never missed a rent payment in my life and it’s his DC too!
I’m weaning off 400mg of Pregabalin because it’s causing me serious gastro issues; abdominal distension, vomiting, severe diarrhoea (I often wear inco pads because it will just pour out of me with no warning), stomach pain, 4 stone of weight gain (I’m now 5”2 and obese!) and it’s made me really lazy and dopey.
I also know it’s going to be horrendous to wean off.
I’m trying to pack our house up but because I have ADHD (medicated), it’s difficult. I’m easily overwhelmed and I have a lot of stuff to get rid of (I’ve always done a clear out every 3 months but Covid fucked that up). Skip bags are costing me a small fortune and I have no friends that will drive things to the skip for me. So everywhere is in total chaos all the time.
I have a support worker who is also chasing the council for me and is generally great; my children are now classed as Young Carers so they will have access to other support soon.
This is a massive ramble and I don’t really know what to gain from it, but I just needed to word vomit somewhere.