How do you stop worrying about things you can't control?

[pleasefreeme]

And by that, I don't mean general anxiety.

I mean real life problems that are connected to me, out of my control but are making me feel sick with stress and like I'll never be free from worry ever again.

I just feel like my life is not my own anymore, I have a sick parent which was bad enough, I'm struggling to keep my head above water with that. It's not a time thing, they're in hospital but I'm constantly worried about their physical and mental health.

This weekend I've found out one of my dc takes drugs so now I have that to contend with. They don't live here so it's not under my roof, but I'm worried to death about the health risks/legality of it, even though I have no control over what they do to their own body. She holds down a good job, is highly intelligent, and tbh I'm really shocked (I know plenty of young people take recreational drugs but I just didn't think it was her thing)

I've just broken down this morning, I feel like I just can't cope with any more, I can't see any light at the end of the tunnel. I do all the things that are advised to look after myself, I get fresh air every day, exercise, make time to see friends etc, but I cannot free myself from the worries in my head.

@pleasefreeme although our worries are not the same, I just wanted to offer a virtual hand hold. I’m feeling exactly the same mentally at the moment, and although have always had depression/anxiety on and off over the years, it’s off the scale right now.
It seems like for the past few months, horrible things have happened to me, family, and close friends all at the same time, and it’s overwhelming. It’s seems like nothing is ‘right’ with life, the worries are never ending.
Like you, I don’t know how to switch off all of the constant noise and worry in my head.
It’s there from the minute I wake up, until last thing at night.

Thanks, I just feel like the minute I start feeling a bit more relaxed (various things have cropped up that I've dealt with) something else comes along to slap me back down again.

I almost feel that if the worries were "my own" as in if it was me that was unwell, or if I was having job worries, or money worries, they would be easier to deal with as I'd only have to think of myself. I can't believe I'm in a situation where everything in my own tiny bubble is ok, but there's so much else causing me stress and I just can't do anything about it.