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Feelings of love for therapist

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PhoebeFriends · 20/10/2021 23:19

It was always going to happen, he is such a great therapist so he has raised it but I certainly do adore him.
He is my peace😆.
My sessions (nhs) will end in 4 weeks and I will be bereft - no chance to extend. I know I will get through it but he has saved me and given me life.
I’m not sure how I love him - maybe as my saviour but it is strange to think the most significant person in my life will soon disappear forever.
I think I am posting this to wonder if anyone else has been through a similar experience and wonder how was it on the other side when contact ended?

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Sarahlou63 · 21/10/2021 09:20

Have a read of this;

www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/transference

baroqueandblue · 23/10/2021 23:32

Doubtless your therapist has some wonderful qualities that have deeply impressed you. However, he's only human and it sounds a bit like you're idealising him, which is actually a defense mechanism. Perhaps during your remaining sessions you could raise this with him and see if it can be worked on so that your ending is less painful. Regardless, I wish you well in the coming weeks because it sounds like you'll find it tough not to see him anymore. Hopefully the therapy will prove to have 'taken' enough for you to internalise some of that peace you mentioned Flowers

DismantledKing · 23/10/2021 23:50

Transference isn’t uncommon. An experienced therapist should be able to talk it through with you.

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