How to get over job rejection

[Mol1628]

I know it happens to everyone but I’m utterly crushed.
A job I would have loved came available. With hours I can actually do. I have been a sahm for 8 years. And only really had limited work experience before that (same minimum wage job for a long time) I need a job with fixed working days so really hard to get anyway but this job really was perfect

I even managed to get a fucking interview and was told I did really well but they chose someone with more experience. I know I could do the job and do it well. They said they’d keep my details for later on in case they had more hours available but probably just saying that to be nice.

I’ve applied for jobs I’ve really wanted before having children, more career/training type positions when I was younger and it was always the same. Nothing you did wrong but we aren’t choosing you.

I’ve self harmed for the first time in over ten years. I know it’s pathetic over a job but I’m so miserable not earning my own money and having no self worth. And there are no other opportunities for me I have such limited options. Just being a failure again is absolutely devastating.

I know everyone will say but you did well to get an interview. But that means nothing to me. That doesn’t improve my life at all it’s meaningless.

Be kind to yourself OP, what would you say to a friend in your situation? I doubt you would say its because you're not worth it, or whatever, you'd probably be supportive.

One last thing OP - it sounds as though not having any of your own money is one of the things that is crushing your self esteem, sowhile you're waiting for something to come up, have a look at the long-running thread on mumsnet called something like '£10 a day' which has links to things like online surveys that pay which might get you a bit of cash. There's also quite a lot on spread betting on Mumsnet which I've always been a bit wary of but having looked into it a bit does seem to be a relatively risk free system to make a small amount of money grow if you treat it as a small business.
Good luck

It might not be possible, but can you pop in occasionally as a customer and get to know the staff. Comment positively on shop layout changes, new stock etc.

You mentioned it was niche retail. Are there other similar shops nearby (different towns) that you could also look at.

Did you follow up for feedback?

I would also email occasionally (perhaps quarterly) to check in on vacancies.

I remember being absolutely gutted when I applied for an at-last totally suitable job (after 7 years as a SAHM) to find the organisation had closed the role early. I look back now and although I could have done the job OK - the incumbent (who I know) is superb at it. I have gone to find much more suitable work for my skill set and am even tentatively looking to return to commuting to London.

Sorry to hear this OP.

I’ve been to SO many job interviews and not got the job. Some really awkward ones too! I would love to be a SAHM actually but one of the things stopping me giving up work is that I’d be too scared to ever do a job interview again.

I think you need to give yourself some credit, interview are stressful and it sounds like you did really well.

I would start with volunteer roles to build your CV back up. There are lots of indeed, you could also contact local charities and shops.

www.royalvoluntaryservice.org.uk/volunteering/find-an-opportunity/

Thanks for the practical advice everyone. I’ve been out of the house most of the day with friends to keep myself from spiralling downwards again.
He said everything was fine in the interview just they went for someone with more retail experience. I have loads of retail experience just not recent! So no matter how well I do there will always be a better applicant.

I just feel like it’s the end of the world. No more possibilities. Im aware this is ridiculous but I can’t help feeling it.

And thanks for the £10 a day thread I’ll have a look at it.

Been working my ass off in a voluntary job the last few months to prove myself and her recent experience.

Just got another rejection. Same fucking thing oh there’s nothing you did wrong interview was good you have all the skills but going with someone else. They gave the usual shit that they’d pass my information to other departments And there might be something for me.

To be honest I just don’t want to exist anymore. No matter how hard I try it’s always the same outcome.

The place where I’m volunteering is closing in a few months so I’ll be leaving anyway. Otherwise I would just quit. I’m sick of working hard to benefit everyone else and getting nowhere myself. I’m just so done.