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Handhold, dd has taken tablets

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Worriedsixk · 01/10/2021 22:04

She’s only 14 and has taken a strip of her dads antidepressants, we’re waiting on an ambulance coming it’s like a strange limbo right now. She’s in and out of sleeping and jerking around. I can’t even describe how I’m feeling right now how can this have happened, I feel like the breath has been taken out of me

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Worriedsixk · 01/10/2021 22:48

It’s still not here, I don’t know if I just wait or phone back?

I’m sorry so many of you have been through this too

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AnotherVice · 01/10/2021 22:49

TOXBASE says 'most ingestions, even at doses of 750mg in adults, do not cause severe illness' however 5mg/kg is the toxic dose so at 7stone she definitely needs treatment. And her mental health assessed obviously.

AnotherVice · 01/10/2021 22:50

Sadly ambulances can take hours. Calling back won't help unless she has deteriorated. If there's any way to take her yourself I'd do that. I hope she is alright.

Stressed21 · 01/10/2021 22:50

Handholding, I've been there, more than once. If it helps she's 23 now and doing ok. Keeping everything crossed for you

SD1978 · 01/10/2021 22:55

Are you close to a hospital and can drive in? Will maybe be quicker than waiting for what's obviously been marked down as an non urgent ambulance, given you've already waited this long? Best of luck to you all xx

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Worriedsixk · 01/10/2021 22:55

They told us not to drive and help was on its way.. dh could drop us off that might be better how would I cancel the ambulance? We’d probably have hours to wait in a&e I’m just worrying the longer it’s taking its in her system

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AnotherVice · 01/10/2021 22:58

You call back to cancel. The wait to be seen in A&E will be the same however you arrive as they triage. How far is the hospital?

lollipopsandrainbows · 01/10/2021 23:03

Take her yourself. There are ambulance shortages everywhere. My grandad had a heart attack, they said it could be up to 5 hours for an ambulance. Please scoop her up and take her. You will still have to wait in A&E regardless by what means you arrive. Sending massive hugs OP.

MummyOf4Kids · 01/10/2021 23:03

Handhold from me OP
My dd has overdosed on paracetamol twice recently so I know how you're feeling.
Please keep us updated

Shellfishblastard · 01/10/2021 23:56

Thinking of you and your dd Flowers

Hope you are now at the hospital and being taken care of

Pallisers · 01/10/2021 23:59

hugs.

went through something similar (not tablets) with dd age 14. Long road but she is now 21 in her final year in university and happy and healthy

That crisis was the thing that got us and her the help we needed

really thinking of you and hoping all is well.

PleaseReferToMeAsBritneySpears · 02/10/2021 00:03

Big hugs. I had an asthma attack a few weeks ago and 111 told me not to wait for an ambulance if someone could drive me. He said there wasn't time. Waiting times are bonkers these days. I'll add you to my bedtime prayers.

SD1978 · 02/10/2021 07:32

How you arrive doesn't mean you wouldn't still be waiting hours- ambulance offload to WR if safe isnt uncommon. If you are triaged as more acute, you'll be seen first regardless of your mode of transportation. Waiting hours in ED in case there is an issue is better than waiting hours at home for an ambulance for me xx

Teaandtonic · 02/10/2021 10:20

Did the ambulance come in the end op?

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 02/10/2021 14:09

How is she doing OP?

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Worriedsixk · 02/10/2021 18:42

Thank you everyone, your advice really helped last night. Sorry for not updating but it’s been a tough 24hrs as you can imagine.

I called back the ambulance service and they couldn’t give an estimated time and could have been many more hours so they were happy for dh to drive if I went in the car too, so we all piled in the car and he dropped us off.

We weren’t triaged until half 1 then it was about 6:30 before a doctor seen us.
Luckily dd is fine (physically) no lasting damage or ill effects, she was dizzy/sick and jerky but that eased after a few hours.

We got a bed on the children’s ward at 9.30 this morning, staff have all been wonderful. They’re keeping dd until Monday when camhs can come and speak to her and we’ll take it from there, she’s under tight observation so has to have somebody next to her at all times, even at the toilet.

She’s mainly embarrassed but just seems so sad, I can’t believe this was under my nose the whole time she’s hidden it all so well. Apparently she has done this before and never told a soul, she’s not opening up much but she’s trying which is a big step.

Feel like the worst mum in the world but glad she can get the help she needs now.
I think child protection is being contacted too due to her age, which sounds scary tbh but the more help and support we can get for her the better.

Thank you all again.

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NiceTwin · 02/10/2021 18:50

My dd was like yours, mortified at being kept in, me having to stay with her all the time. She is terrible at opening up to CAMHS but did that day just so she could get out of hospital.

Bless you, it is tough. I was shell shocked for days after, I walked in to see my dd shoving handfuls of pills into her mouth. Thankfully we haven't had a repeat and she is now discharged from CAMHS less than a year on.

Kerikerikeri · 02/10/2021 22:11

Hi OP, what a long wait you had, you must be exhausted physically and emotionally. Glad your DD is now in hospital and being referred to CAMHS.

Hope you have a settled time over the next couple of days - or as settled as it can be.

You aren’t the worst mum at all. Had you known you would have helped, the way you did last night. And don’t worry about social workers being involved. They will just want to know that she is safe and being well looked after - and from all you’ve said I don’t think you need to worry. They will also want to make sure that you have enough support too.

Rainbowqueeen · 02/10/2021 22:44

Op you are a great mum. You have made it so clear how much you love your DD and how you are going to engage with all the support she and you are offered.

I’m so pleased to see your update. Wishing you both all the best

hapagirl · 02/10/2021 23:14

Glad to hear she is physically fine and safe. You’re not a terrible mum for not seeing what’s under your nose. You didn’t see because she didn’t want you too and they can be so good at hiding. It happened to us too (details in above pp). It might be the wake up you all needed or you might be in for the long haul. We are and it’s a journey but being there for each other means the world. It took
about 6 months of pretty intensive CAMHS for my DD to open up. She’s undergoing ASD assessment right now. As an aside, I was very surprised that we never have had SS involvement. My DD was 14 when she ODed.

Dizzywizz · 04/10/2021 15:58

How’s your dd doing now @Worriedsixk?

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Worriedsixk · 08/10/2021 13:56

@Dizzywizz Thank you for asking, sorry I haven’t been updating it’s been a tough week tbh. Dd is back at school today (guidance councillor aware and will call if any issues or if dd misses a class).
I think Dd gave herself a fright, she’s been up and down really, there’s been a couple of nights she’s slept in with me, think it’s tough being in her room alone at night. Need to get a lock box for all of our meds. I think it’s been this week it’s really hit me what happened, think I was just on autopilot to start with. Trying not to be so scared but it’s hard.
Can’t thank you all enough for your support and kindness Flowers

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Dizzywizz · 09/10/2021 20:39

Glad there’s been some improvement @Worriedsixk

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