Anyone with Quiet BPD? 49yo and struggling with support :/

[FrankoTheWankoMyBoy]

Hello, I've recently been diagnosed with BPD, I also have clinical depression. I have "quiet" bpd or high functioning bpd. I'm struggling with getting support in they way I would like a group or face to face? My DH is amazing he's my rock but I feel alone and a wee bit lost at the moment. It's a bit of a head f* with this diagnosis and explains a lot but I don't know how to help myself.

Can anyone relate?

Hello, I don’t really have any advice to offer as I think almost everything is over the internet now rather than face to face but I was hoping to ask a question, did they diagnose you with the quiet variant or do you just recognise that within yourself? And are you in the uk? I only ask the second part as you say bpd rather than eupd. They’re both the same I know.

Hi, I'm UK I say quiet as I recognised it after my initial diagnosis and spoke to my CPN and had another assessment/question discussion about it. It feels like the support without the pandemic would be minimal and be mindfulness/cbt. I feel apologetic always asking for help and guidance.

Yes, exactly the same here. You've got this far, so well done! There are a some interesting books and workbooks available on the subject, and a good therapist works wonders. Sending hugs

Hi, I have EUPD too, the quiet type. It is so hard to get support because we direct stuff inwards so it can be hard for people to see we are struggling.
DBT is great for any type of EUPD though, and you can get the workbooks for it online. Are you on a waiting list of any sort of therapy?

Hello, thank you so much for replying. I'm on a list for group therapy and I was sent out a huge bundle of breathing and mindfulness techniques. I feel that I would prefer even just one 1-1 to do this with then support myself until the group becomes available.
I am due to go back to work tomorrow after 10 days of isolating with Covid and I'm dreading it, not because I don't like it but because i am struggling with my head and feel very low.
The lady who owns the business had said come back on the 29/9 which was okay and then I got a call from my manager to start back on the 4/10. I said the owner did state it was safe for me to return on the 29/9 and the manager seemed okay with it.
So today I got an appointment I have been waiting on through the post, it had been changed because I was isolating, it's now on a working day instead of my day off. They said if I don't attend I'll be taken off the list. So I messaged the manager and said could I maybe swap a day with someone or start early, go for my app and work till the end of the day meaning I'd be there at opening and closing which would help better. She messaged me back to say I've just changed the rota to suit you! I hope you're okay to come in tomorrow. I now feel more shit than I did. I've just been there 6 weeks and feel like not going back. I hate how my head makes me feel.