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I feel lost (mental health, new job and new life)

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envi · 25/09/2021 12:17

Hi🌻 first of all I want to say sorry for any mistakes I've made, English is not my first language so sometimes it's hard to express myself. Plus, I had a huuuge breakdown last night and still don't feel like myself, so please don't be so harsh on me. Thank you! 😊

The last few years have been difficult for me and my husband. I lost my job just before the first lockdown and remained unemployed until this spring, so we have been living on my husband's income all this time. I returned to my previous job in April, our financial situation has improved since then, but my psychological wellbeing has become much worse... I hate that job, even the thought of it makes me cry and stressed, I can't sleep at night because I'm always worried and the worst part is that I cannot leave it, because there are no other jobs in our small town. We also have problems with infertility, which are not easy for me either... Recently my husband got a promotion and we have been thinking about moving to another city. We started looking for a new place to rent and faced our first challenge - rent price. He looks at places that are well above our budget and there's no way we can afford it in the worst case scenario. And I told him what I think. He told me we can afford it if I find any job quickly and stayed employed, because he doesn't want to be the only person who works in our house (which is totally fine, I get it and understand him!!) but at the same time I feel a bit angry at him and myself... So, we're moving, the only thing that changes for him is the place we live, meanwile I have to find any job I hate and start working immediately so we can afford the place. And I'm angry at myself as well, because I know I won't be able to cope with another job I hate. I've been thinking about switching my career ( I've been working in differet warehouse my whole adult life and I want to start my photography career as it is the only thing I'm really good at & it makes my happy) but now it doesn't seem possible to do. I feel so lost and lonely...

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Sarahlou63 · 25/09/2021 13:05

Have a hug - you sound very stressed.

Can I ask why you automatically think you'll have to get a job you hate?

The job opportunities in a city which will be much better than in a small town so you will have choices. While you might not get your dream job you may well find one that is (at worst) bearable and (at best) a chance to make new friends and a social life. Also a city might well have a photography club so you could work on developing your skills and look for work in that field.

This is really good at explaining how we get what we think we deserve and by changing the way we think, we can change the way we feel and behave.

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