Advice please

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I'm 55 and have struggled off and on with some anxiety and low mood but I've battled on.
I've just split up from my DP after 4 years and I'm finding it difficult to cope. I do love him but I felt he wasn't right for me and this was making my anxiety and low mood worse. There is a possibility that its my mental health which is making me see the relationship as the problem.
The question is I've been prescribed mirtazipine by my GP as I'm finding the separation very difficult. Do I take them or wait and see if I feel better after a few weeks otherwise how will I know if its me or the relationship. It sounds complicated

On one hand I'm sick of feeling like this but if it was all about the relationship surely things will start to get better soon ?
Has anyone been in a similar situation.
I've no appetite and I'm not enjoying things very much at the moment, is this just heart break or something else. I left my DH to be with this man so it maybe things from the past I haven't dealt with. Will ADs help me cushion the blow is this a good idea ?

Having been in your situation I would say its possibly the break up making you feel how you are feeling, they say it takes a month for each year you were together to get over it. I have been through this several times and have decided that relationships just make my mental health and anxiety worse, I have been single for 5 years, have tried dating people but when things get serious my anxiety gets out of control.

Of course if you feel so unwell that you feel you are not coping then you need to take the AD'S, for me I have never got on with them, in tje past my GP has given me beta blockers as a short term alternative and they have really helped (when I'm feeling panicky). Try and arrange to meet up with friends, get outdoors and do things you enjoy, keeping busy is key, for me the gym and walking helped a lot. Remember it's OK to feel upset after a break up and be kind to yourself x

Thank you for yr reply. I think I need to give it a while before trying them. I'm hoping I will feel a little better and if there's some improvement that's good enough for me.

Do try and eat something, the “not eating” thing is something I always do when upset (especially relationship related), my appetite just vanishes but it can become a problem and it will only make you feel more unwell, try and graze on a few things to keep your energy levels up. Sit outside in the sun or go for a walk, the sun always helps me feel better. Things will begin to feel better soon, they always do 🙂. Maybe make a list of all the lovely things you can do now your single.

I think its particularly bad because I left my husband to be with my DP.
I was dreading this time and tbh I feel totally lost. I'm having cbt but I'm not really getting on with that

I did discuss meds with my gp so I'm going to get them from pharmacy.
Luckily I have got friends around me and I'm very active but its very difficult.
I do love my DP but he's not right for me which makes it very difficult indeed.
Last time I saw him we had had a lovely time then I started to get these physical heavy feelings in my chest which I think is telling me hes not right.
I will start to write my list of what I can do now I am single. As we were not living together I felt pretty much single anyway.
At the moment I can't get up any enthusiasm for being single.
Its amazing how the body reacts though. Something was telling me for a very long time this relationship was not right but I chose to ignore the signs. I think these feelings started about 3 years ago. They would come and go.
Thank you for yr support. I will try grazing.