Obsessing over someone. Need to stop.

[Fordian]

I won't go into too much detail as it's a bit embarrassing if I'm honest, but there's this person I discovered online (on a video series) who I have no hope of ever meeting. I dug around and found out as much as I could about this person but the trail ran cold (ahem) 12 years ago. I imagine they've very much moved on with their life since then!

Now, the trouble is I cannot get them out of my head. I daydream about them all the time, which is ridiculous.

The online site I found them on has gone dormant, but I can revisit it as much as I like.

What I want to do is to stop thinking about this person so much. Or at all. It's not mentally healthy and is taking me away from the here and now.

It's been about 3-4 weeks, I guess, now.

I've 'had form' for this obsessive thinking in the past but this one is proving hard to shift.

Any suggestions?

TIA.

Hi @Fordian, that's an interesting one 🤔

Do you think you have an emotional need which is behind the obsession with this person e.g are you wanting connection or love?

I tend to have intense obsessions about various things and find that the best way to get past one is by finding something else to replace it with.

Yes, I've been a bit like that. Find a new obsession....