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I can't cope anymore

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ReallyStrugglingNeedsHelp · 05/09/2021 05:57

I'm struggling so much right now. I've made loads of stupid mistakes in my life. I hate who I am. I'm not coping with life.

I've also managed to trigger my anxiety so I'm having near constant panic attacks. I can't sleep which is making my depression feel so much worse.

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MaryBoBary · 05/09/2021 06:16

Sorry OP, try and stay strong for yourself. Have you spoken to doctor?

Rupertpenrysmistress · 05/09/2021 06:22

Small steps op. Do you have any techniques for coping with your anxiety? Are you receiving treatment your your anxiety? If not echo above poster address this first then you will find things easier.

As you know not sleeping affects your mental health so it becomes a viscous circle. Do you have any friends or family you can talk to?

ReallyStrugglingNeedsHelp · 05/09/2021 06:27

It's only started yesterday. I've put a request in to restart my anti depressants but they won't get the request until Monday

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Cissyandflora · 05/09/2021 06:54

You might need to stay on antidepressants. They can help with anxiety too. Changed my life and I wouldn’t stop.

Try to be really gentle with yourself and look at getting through the day in 30 minute blocks. Are you single? Do you have children?

Sarahlou63 · 05/09/2021 06:57

I've made loads of stupid mistakes in my life

No one decides to make a mistake. You make choices or decisions in life, based on the information you have at the time - some you will get right, others you will get wrong.

Sarahlou63 · 05/09/2021 07:00

Oops, posted too soon! Try writing down your 'mistakes' (choices) and why you decided to do what you did at that time. Is there a pattern? What have you learned from the past?

ReallyStrugglingNeedsHelp · 05/09/2021 07:26

I've been too impulsive.

I have a partner but we don't live together and he's not available this weekend. I have 2 kids. They're being great but I really can't cope with stuff today. I feel really sick, I'm struggling to eat

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ReallyStrugglingNeedsHelp · 05/09/2021 07:31

And I am sick of all these mental health posters saying its ok to not be ok. Nobody even cares when you're not ok. There's no help available

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GoodnightGrandma · 05/09/2021 07:34

Feeling sick and not able to eat was one of my DH’s anxiety symptoms. You need to get back on those antidepressants ASAP.
Try eating soft foods that slide down, and flush it down with water. You need to eat.

Toastytoads · 05/09/2021 07:38

How old are your kids OP. Could you have a chilled day today with them? Maybe a walk, and then stick films on, order take out so you don't have to cook and just take the pressure off x

FusionChefGeoff · 05/09/2021 08:13

Can you contact a friend and ask them to ring you?? It could be a huge help just to chat through what's on your mind

ReallyStrugglingNeedsHelp · 05/09/2021 08:16

@Toastytoads

How old are your kids OP. Could you have a chilled day today with them? Maybe a walk, and then stick films on, order take out so you don't have to cook and just take the pressure off x
One of the kids is going out, which is good actually because one of the issues is her PDA. I'm struggling with it, it's so hard all the time
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Cissyandflora · 05/09/2021 12:04

What are you doing today?

ThePotatoCroquette · 05/09/2021 12:22

One aspect of anxiety is rumination. It sounds like that's what is going on here. You are ruminating on these things in the past, going over and over them in your mind and you are feeling more worthless and ashamed and upset.

Try breathing in and thinking about all these things in the past, then slowly breath them out. Maybe think something like "I am releasing myself From the past" or "I'm breathing out the past." You can also do this by lighting a candle and concentrating on the flame. Think about all the things in the past, then blow the candle out. Those things are now gone. Each time they start to upset you again, do this again. You can also try tending up all your muscles and then releasing them. I do this by thinking "I'm so anxious about x issue in my life" and tensing all my muscles up, and then thinking "and now I'm letting it go" and relaxing all my muscles again.

Lots of other people have written it a lot more eloquently than this, but anxiety is either about the past or the future. It lived in our rumination over the past, and our fears for the future. But when we are centred in the moment, when we are just concentrating on our breathing and the present moment, we are released from anxiety. When you are practising mindfulness you are in the moment. So whatever tools you use to get there, try to find a way to be in the present moment only. Release yourself from the past, which you cannot change, and the future, which isn't here yet, and instead concentrate on right now. What can you do right now to feel better? Yes it's important to have a plan to get out of mental health crisis, like going back on medication and referring for counselling things like that, but in crisis it's most important to look after yourself right now. To find a way to feel a little bit better right now.

I hope you can find some peace in the here and now and that your crisis passes quickly. I know how it feels to think nobody cares and nobody has been where you are. I may not know you but I do care that you feel this waY, and I have been there myself. I am sending you healing energy, who know if it will get to you but I hope that it helps you to know I am sending it to you and I hope you feel better soon.

ReallyStrugglingNeedsHelp · 05/09/2021 14:35

Thank you. My partner has been round and just been really wonderful. He's popping back later too.
I've had a little walk to the shop and bought some food I think I can manage to eat. I'm chilling with the teenager for the time being

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Cissyandflora · 05/09/2021 22:07

I hope you’re feeling better this evening. It sounds like you managed well today. That’s really great just to get through it. Awful feeling anxiety.

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