Low self esteem affecting how I treat DS. How do I go about changing?

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I've suffered with low self esteem for as long as I can remember. I can't think of any one incident which triggered it, just that I've always felt inferior. My mum and dad aren't massively confident or charismatic so maybe there's a bit of genetics in there.
Now it's affecting the way I treat DS1, who's more like me than his dad. He's very sensitive and I worry about him turning out like me. DS2 is like his dad, confident and resilient and doesn't let much bother him.
I find because DS1, who's six, is like me I'm impatient with him and criticise him more than DS2, not all the time but probably enough to potentially knock his confidence. I really want to stop doing this and I am really trying but I think I need help building up my own self esteem in order to do that successfully. I just want to be the best mother I can to DS1 and not burden pass all my self esteem problems on to him.
How do I go about it? Should I try to find a counsellor? How do I find out if a counsellor is any good?
Any advice gratefully received.

I can recommend hypnotherapy, it's effectively re-wiring your thought processes. You can achieve great success in a very short space of time. Personally I haven't looked back.

I like that idea. How do you go about it and what's involved? Is it expensive?

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It's expensive but can you afford not to do it? It's the best decision I ever made and worth every single penny. There should be a society for hypnotherapists, you should have a look online. I called a few from my yellow pages after checking qualifications and met a couple before deciding who to go with. It can cost between 30-70 per session, it'll depend where you are. I went twice a month.

Thanks, I'll do some research tonight once the DSs are in bed. This could be just what I've looking for. If it works maybe I can get them to cure me of my spider phobia too. Thanks again.

No problem, it cured my friends OCD in 9 sessions, she was so impressed she trained as a hypnotherapist herself. Good luck with it, it's worth it. You deserve the investment.

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Anyone?