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Depressed or lazy

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wonderlust23 · 04/09/2021 00:10

Hi all ,

I'm feeling a bit lost at the moment I have my own business so I work from home and I literally cannot be bothered to do anything at all . If it's the weekend and my partners at home I feel fine and happy but in the week I just have zero motivation for anything for myself even small things seem tedious. Am I just lazy or is something wrong . I hope I make sense it's so hard to put into words

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beansprout55 · 04/09/2021 00:14

Try getting out as much as possible - makes a huge difference to mood

SquirryTheSquirrel · 04/09/2021 00:23

If you have succeeded in setting up your own business, I very much doubt you are a lazy person. Not being able to motivate yourself to do the smallest of things is very much a symptom of depression (I speak as a sufferer myself). It can be triggered by external events, but often there is no cause at all - a fog just descends and it's as though you can picture yourself doing X thing, but there's an invisible barrier stopping you.

It would be worth speaking to your GP, although the likelihood is that if they diagnose depression it will be a prescription for anti-depressants and a long waiting list for any sort of counselling. If you can fund it yourself, counselling might be worthwhile.

Also think about whether anything is triggering this - or whether there might be some past, unresolved issue or trauma in your life. There might well be nothing at all, but sometimes it can be traced to a kind of delayed reaction to something that's happened in your life.

You say you are happy when your partner is home - have you talked to your partner about this? Sometimes articulating your feelings can help, and your partner may be able to help you devise coping strategies.

If you can find ways to cope and get by, and things to do that make you feel happier, even in the short term, it can help you get through the dark periods.

The worst thing you can do is blame yourself or think of yourself as 'lazy'. Depression is an illness, just like a physical illness, and you need to be forgiving of yourself, or else you will make yourself feel worse.

I hope you can get some RL help and support. Flowers

Touty · 04/09/2021 00:59

I feel the same op. I work from home but feel like I can't be bothered. For me I think it's part depression and menopause. I'm on anti depressants which used to help give me motivation but feel I can't be bothered with much now.

Do you need hrt?

leavesthataregreen · 05/09/2021 23:21

I have this . It comes in waves. It's been terrible this year. So hard to motivate yourself when there's so little external stimulus due to Covid.

It can't be laziness because lazy people don't care. It doesn't bother them. They enjoy the easy way out, minimal effort. It doesn't stress them.

I don't really have a solution but things I find that help a bit are:
– decide intentionally to do nothing for two days. Take a day or two off work and get out of the house. Or stay in and get other stuff done without the guilt that you should be working.
– get help. Turn to a therapist or life coach or delegate work to someone else and pay them to do it.
– do the low hanging fruit. Tick off the easy fun parts of work first. Sounds counterintuitive but at least you'll then have done something.
– procrastinate productively by doing something else worth doing - sort out a drawer or repaint some furniture or deep clean a room.
– ease back in with one hour a day, then two, then three. Better than nothing.

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