What sort of therapy do I need? Please help.

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I need a therapist. I have tried various Counsellors over the past few years and haven’t once found I got anywhere. I talked a lot about things but there never seemed to be any analysis/processing/understanding about why and I didn’t get anywhere.

My friend in the USA has a great therapist but she is unable to see people in the UK due to licensing issues or something similar.

I think maybe I need something more than a counsellor. I have searched on accredited websites and just can’t seem to find the right fit.

This is what I’m looking for:

-to work through my issues and mental health struggles
-Someone to help me make sense of things from my past
-help me understand why I am the way I am
-help me work through traumas from my past that are affecting me today
-strategies to deal with how I feel and react
-becoming more assertive

I am not sure what sort of therapy I need. Can anyone make any suggestions?

Hi, sorry to hear you are struggling.

This isn’t going to be very helpful, but I think sometimes it’s just about finding the right person for you, rather than exact details.

I started seeing a therapist who was highly qualified, had loads of experience and specialised in trauma, the area I need most support with. Everything was going ok, but I had to leave her due to relocation. At the time, I really didn’t want to leave her, but I had no choice.

I then found a new therapist, who is less experienced, less qualified and doesn’t specialise in trauma. I decided to give it a go, as I liked her website, her profile and she was really local. It has been amazing. She is far more straight to the point. Offers lots more practical support/advice etc and I just generally feel more of a connection with her.

So, sorry for the long explanation! But what I’m trying to say is it’s not always about what appears to look right at first. So it might be worth trying a few options?

Your therapist sounds great. Would you be happy to share details of her practice/website via private message?

Here's a little self help to get you started;

www.betterrelationships.org.au/well-being/core-beliefs-self-acceptance/

Please know that it's not always possible to make sense of things from your past; accepting that that is the case in your circumstances might be as far as you get. But knowing that you have survived and grown in maturity and understanding can be far more rewarding.

Hi OP you have replies on your other thread

It's psychotherapy you need imo. This is depth psychology so particularly helpful for past events and how they impact you today.

CBT or People Centred counselling won't do most of the things you are asking - they are very surface level behavioural techniques - about management rather than transformation

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It's psychotherapy you need imo. This is depth psychology so particularly helpful for past events and how they impact you today.

CBT or People Centred counselling won't do most of the things you are asking - they are very surface level behavioural techniques - about management rather than transformation

Actually I think she should look for an integrative therapist who can use a range of techniques. This is because her list involves wanting to understand her past AND learn techniques to cope with the present.

Integrative therapists are very common OP, you shouldn't find it hard to find a good one. Good luck!

I tried a few therapists and the one who is helping me the most, is the least qualified of the lot.

I agree that it isn't so much about the model of therapy as it is about the person.

I get a lot more from the one who sits there struggling to suppress a grin as I rant dramatically then bursts out laughing and tells me I'm being utterly unreasonable while I sulk than I do from the one who sat there with a sympathetic smile and asked how it makes me feel and encouraged me to tell my friends how I feel. (not a good idea when you are having an illogical hissy fit)