How to let go of the past?

[yesthatsright]

For a while now I have been constantly questioning my past decisions over and over, silly things like why did I pick my wedding dress, why did I choose the a-levels I done, what if I had taken a job elsewhere etc etc..
more recently it has been why didn't I do more travelling before mortgages/babies/global pandemic. I can't shift these thoughts of the past and will agonise over them all day. I don't even know what I expect from this post but thought I would put it out to see if anyone has had experiences with this. I would love to be able to focus on the present and future without fear of looking back and thinking I've made more wrong decisions ☹️

Just wanted to commiserate really @yesthatsright as I have times when I question myself too.

I don't know what the answer is but I quite like mindfulness meditation for helping me stay in the present and I also think it helps to address why you are having these types of thoughts as well and if there is something in your current situation you are unhappy with that is making you question your past?

Thank you @rainbowninja it does help when someone can relate. Current situation on the outside looks great, nice house, loving husband, beautiful babies, secure job..but I can't help looking back and thinking what if? I mean there are so many people worse off than me and I feel so guilty that I get like this.

I guess it's possible for everything to look good from the outside and yet you can still have doubts and no amount of telling yourself how grateful you should be really changes it?

Do you do any journaling or anything? Just thinking it's an opportunity to formulate your thoughts and get your emotions out.

No I have never thought about journaling but even writing it out on here has helped. Thank you for being so kind