Anger issues

[Redlander]

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post but I’m hoping someone might help. 🙏 I am worried about my DH’s increasingly volitile behaviour. He completely flies of the handle at the slightest thing, literally zero- 100 rage. He doesn’t drink alcohol, so it’s not that, but he has the shortest of fuses. I am now frightened of him (although he doesn’t hit me, but does break things) I never know what he’s going to be like, I dread being around him, I’m scared of triggering him etc. He totally doesn’t see there’s anything wrong with HIM, he sees it’s everyone else!! Some of the time he’s fine, jovial, funny etc. He doesn’t believe in “mental health” and is one of those that thinks it’s a stigma, yet I think he’s the one with the biggest issue. I just don’t know what to do. I am on edge and anxious the whole time and I know he is the issue.
Sorry, I don’t really know what I’m expecting anyone to say, but I just needed to put it somewhere. Thank you for listening

Unless he's prepared to accept he's got a problem, and is sincere about addressing that problem, then there is nothing you can do other than make plans (and quickly) to leave before he moves on from breaking things to breaking you.

Thank you for your reply. I know you’re right. The only problem he sees is with everyone else. We’ve been together for thirty years so the whole leaving thing….. I don’t know….. but thank you

It might be worth having a chat with your GP - if his behaviour is changing it might be linked to an underlying problem.