Depression/low mood during period

[Emotionalmess9]

Anyone else have this?

I’ve seen so many threads about pre-period pmt/low mood, but nothing about whilst on your period?

I’ve been on hormonal contraception for 10 years, and stopped back in December last year so we could start TTC for our first. But I’ve recently noticed that around the time my period is due/throughout my period, I’m unbelievably low, I’m sad, I can’t be bothered to do anything, I’m constantly exhausted, and I just feel so pissed off.

I’m guessing this is hormone related as any other time I feel fine. I mean I have my down days, but I can manage to pull myself together. But recently I can’t control it and I just feel so depressed. But it’s only this bad around my period.

I’ve been told by fertility doctors that my weight is effecting our chances of TTC, so I’ve got my diet in check and I’m back in the gym. But the days that I’m beyond exhausted, I have zero energy to do anything, so I end up missing the gym which then makes me feel even worse because I know I should be loosing weight if we want a baby.

It all seems like a huge ball off depressed stress and my poor OH is either getting snapped at or getting silent treatment. Some days I can’t even be bothered to say anything. And this is all so new to me and I just feel so alone.

Apologies for the rant/long post, I just wanted to see if anyone else has this?

I get v tired on my period. Usually low beforehand but when it comes it is more a relief. Energy and mood pick up around day five. I find it helps to really allow myself a day 'off'. I also try and do more exercise on the days my energy is high and just aim for maintenance on period. Maybe stress of TTC and/or change in diet is also a factor?

@MistySkiesAfterRain thank you for responding!

Yea that’s what I find odd, because this month I’ve been the worst throughout my period. I was quite exhausted the week before my period because OH was joking about me getting a week off the gym each month.

I’ve also woken up today feeling sooo much better in myself and AF trailed off yesterday and seems to have stopped today. So I deffo think it’s hormones. I have also just started taking B6 which I hope helps!

Yes I’ve tried to push myself but I just can’t wake up! (We do get up at 5:30 for the gym🤦🏻‍♀️)

I think it could be the stress of TTC as this month we also saw a fertility doctor as I said, who pretty much put the entire blame on my BMI which has really got me down this month so maybe it’s all of those combined.

I’m not naive to my weight though, I know it’s not good at all, I think the added frustration of lack of energy wasn’t helping either. 🙄

I'm about 10 dpo and feeling really sad/anxious for the first time in a long time, I'm having insecure thoughts about my partner which I don't normally have eg who are his messages from? Have I upset him?
Also I got unfriended by someone on fb that I haven't seen for about 15 years but I'm still feeling rejected and a bit rubbish because of it, irrationally.

I had a restless night with vivid dreams and feeling hot last night too.
It's my first cycle after coming off desogestrel so I'm trying to tell myself it's my hormones making a comeback.
You're not alone @Emotionalmess9 and @MistySkiesAfterRain xx

@Portlandia I feel your pain. I get the same and I have I kick myself out of that mindset. Because it can really start to cause issues that aren’t even there in relationships. Me and my OH went through a rough patch because I was so insecure and it almost pushed him away (although that was also because of previous relationships!)

Desogestrel messed me up big time, as soon as I stopped taking it, I felt like a black cloud had been lifted. But since stopping it, my hormones have been all over the place and some weeks I just completely shut off and can’t even explain it on some days.

I have been trying to listen to some positive mindset podcast, and I’ve also just ordered a book call “the art of positive thinking” which I hope will help. Even after a couple of podcast episodes I feel much better!

Hope you feel better soon! Here for a chat if you need it! Xx

Thanks @Emotionalmess9, a bit of time on my own is helping my mood calm down. I'll check out that podcast too, thanks

You’re welcome. Yes sometime taking 5 helps. The podcast is by a guy called James Middleton and it’s called something like “that voice in side your head” and it really does help 👍🏼