To quit or percivere

[lancslass17]

Had lots of ups and downs over last few years small things can trigger major anxiety/catastrophising which I can't get a grip on.

Saw Counsellor which helped but through work so only a few sessions which have helped but still not right.

I can't figure out if I've had enough of this job (been there a long time feel dissolutioned) or its because I'm feeling so anxious. I only realised recently works my current trigger as had 2 weeks off and part way through thought ahhh this is what OK feels like. But today I'm back at work feeling exhausted with worry.

How would you separate the two to make a rational decision? Don't want to leave to end up worse iykwim.

Can you figure out exactly what it is about work that is your trigger? That might make a difference. If it's something amorphous to do with responsibility/deadlines/pressure then maybe the anxiety will travel with you and leaving would feel like a mistake. But if it's something very specific to the current job then getting something new could possibly help (although any new job would still come with the stress of being a new starter).

I have confidence issues worry about making mistakes then beat myself up when I do. I just want a job where you go in do the filing or whatever needs doing for the day and go home no responsibility for others.

Stress can make you worry about doing a good job more than normal. I suppose the question is - are you happy?

@lancslass17 I am sort of in the same boat but have taken on a new job, sinking fast and don't know if its anxiety and stress contributing to lack of confidence and ability or vice versa. Sorry I don't have answers but just wanted to acknowledge and let you know you're not alone in how you're feeling

@lancslass17 and @JustOneShake - your employers need to know so they can help you. It costs a lot of time and money to find staff so (I would hope) they would much rather extend your training than lose you - but if you don't speak up they won't know.

@JustOneShake have you ever tried meds?

@lancslass17 I've not tried meds. I did speak to my employer and we are going to make some changes. I did think about stopping altogether, before I got in too deep but have decided to carry on. I hope it's the right decision for me.