In a horrible situation at work. Took sick leave during lockdown because of a traumatic bereavement. Back at work, and have experienced indirect sexism, racism and had discriminatory comments off my boss regarding my sick leave. And when I raised how I was being indirectly bullied by two men on
The team (withholding work, not showing up
To meetings, making a racial joke, trying to
Micro manage me, talking down to me and many more examples) he minimised everything and told me I was too sensitive and overreacting because of what had happened to me. He’s also flip flopped lots of times about reshuffling work so I wouldn’t have fo come Into direct contact with them. But then backtracks and denies it. Then agreed to it again. Then carried on making me attend meetings with them anyway. He’s done this so many times I eventually realised he was gas lighting me too. He’s also sometimes very complementary about my work, or sometimes does it in a negging way. Kinda in a grooming way and to keep me in place. So all flavours of subtle bullying which I know are difficult to even explain let alone prove to people. It’s affecting my mental health very badly. Binge eating and stopped leaving the house unless absolutely necessary. Doesn’t seem Fair I have to leave my job but I know this is what will ultimately end up happening. Asked for a transfer, but they have implied it’s a tough recruitment process for the other roles - get the impression I’ll
Be blocked anyway. Not sure what to do. Can I hand in constructive dismissal and trigger a grievance process at the same time? Can’t take much more, it’s making my depression so much worse, almost feeling suicidal over it and trapped. Any tips or advice would be really welcome. I feel very anxious. Scared of doing a formal grievance too. Any helpful advice very welcome 🙏