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Going to lose all my friends because of my mental illness

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Abs1992 · 16/08/2021 09:55

I fell out with a best friend recently because I was going through a depressive period and I was difficult and I don’t blame her for giving up. But she was one of three in a close group and now I’m pushing away the others because I can’t cope with how difficult it is to have that situation of me and her not talking anymore, the feeling I’ve ruined the group, I’ve made things awkward and rubbish for everyone. And seeing them all together without me reminds me of what I’ve lost and why I lost it and that it’s because of how awful I am. I changed my medication and had been doing ok, well even, and now I’m falling again and I can’t do it like this anymore. The only thing stopping me from ending my life is the guilt of how my family would feel. But it feels like a choice between me living miserably and lonely forever vs. My parents grieving me forever. I just can’t take it. I’ve had therapy. ChNged medication again. Been honest and open with my friends about how bad it was last time but I can’t do it again. I’ve literally told them I don’t think it’s going to work anymore, literally pushing them away. I regret it now but also don’t think there’s anything else I could do. Im a mess.

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Abs1992 · 16/08/2021 10:14

Not sure what I’m really asking here but I just need to vent and maybe any advice or anyone who has been through similar? Just don’t want to keep going

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ttcsucks · 16/08/2021 12:31

So sorry to hear this OP, I'm finding it difficult to communicate wi friends too and am pushing them away due to mental health and other health issues.

Are you on medication? Or other treatment?

Abs1992 · 16/08/2021 12:44

I’m on venlafaxine for about a month now after my previous medication fluoxetine seemed not to be working. It felt like it worked at first and now it doesn’t. I’m scared to go to the doctors again because the job I want to go into does checks on medical history and can turn you down for serious MH difficulties. Feel stuck. Can’t go to doctor because of that, can’t kill myself because of the guilt I feel about my parents, can’t be happy and just live because.. well, depression

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Notgettingbetter · 16/08/2021 15:29

Try to talk to your friends - if they are nice people they will listen and support you. You need friends when you're having a hard time. I'm sorry you feel so awful. I am struggling with my mental health and I'm in a similar position - also been on venlafaxine for about a month and desperately waiting for it to kick in! Are your parents supportive?

Mistyplanet · 17/08/2021 23:11

Focus on getting well again and dont think too much about the friends and what will or wont happen. Take it day by day xx

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