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Dealing with family

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YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 14/08/2021 09:58

I'm not ok at the moment and struggling.

My brother is not sympathetic and making things worse. I was brave and sent him a lengthy email explaining why I'm struggling. He sent a message back dismissing my problems and pointing out how other people have it worse. I know they do, but it doesn't make my problems any less valid.

Their teenage daughter has said some horrible things to me over the last week. She knows everything and constantly belittles me. During conversations about my hobby she's butted in said things like "of course, you're not as experienced as me....." or "of course, I wouldn't expect you to understand....." while looking down her nose at me. Her mother enables this and gives her the opportunity to do it as she says to her "now .... what do you think?" I've done the hobby for a number of years and had lessons from a professional instructor while the girl has watched a few YouTube videos.

The feelings of not being valued by my brother and his family has been going on sometime but it's all come to head recently with the incidents above.

How do you deal with this? At the moment, I'd rather walk away and have no relationship at all with them, but that would cause issues with my mother as she loves the "whole family round the table" thing and I don't want to hurt her by refusing to go for a meal.

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Sarahlou63 · 14/08/2021 15:26

How often do you see your brother and his delightful daughter? If it's only the occasional (or weekly) meal can you steer the topic away from your hobby?

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