Does anyone else do the ‘hate change’ thing?

[GloveFromAbove]

I have suffered from anxiety in the past and it probably still affects me now but to much less of an extent than it has previously.

But every time there’s a big (life) decision to be made I really struggle with change and worry myself into not looking forward to these changes. Holidays (pre pandemic!) - I’ve never actually looked forward to a holiday for years but once I’m there I enjoy myself. I worry about the flight, will the cat be ok at home, have we spent too much etc.

Now we have the chance to move house. Something we’ve wanted to do for years, yes it’ll cost us a bit more monthly but it’s definitely affordable.

Now our for sale sign has gone up I’m panicking, with silly things really. What if we get a buyer and something goes wrong during the process, what if the cat goes missing in our new home, will there be enough storage, are we making a huge mistake - an on and on ad inifinitum. I know this is anxiety talking but I can’t get a handle on it and I’m talking myself out of something that should be positive and exciting.

Any advice please?

I've asd and worrying about change is as natural to me as breathing 🤣🤣 that being said , I try to only worry about things that are in the immediate future. I tell myself that the rest is future romdowas problem. This works for me as otherwise I'd drive myself mad worrying about every little scenario but I also need to worry a little bit so I feel prepared for the change.

Oh actually that’s good advice thinking about it as my future self’s problem! I try to do that thing where I only do or think as far ahead as the next 24 hours but I find it hard to stay on track with that.

My worrying is spoiling so many things.

Another good piece of advice I was given was to allocate a time to worry about things , write them down, get them out of my head , try and come up with 2/3 reasons why it's not something to worry about and then to try focus on those positives instead of worrying all day long.

I try to do that but the negative thoughts always creep back in to outweigh the positive ones. Argh I bloody hate anxiety, I used to be so confident and mentally ok and now I’m just not.

I'm like this too and getting worse as the years go on. I'd love to be able to sell my home and move to a better area for my children's sake but cannot do it because of my anxiety it's all just too much for me to cope with. I'm the same with holidays infact I haven't been abroad now for many years because of it. I feel I've also become worse since covid even days out have become extremely stressful for me. I have children and wish I wasn't like this as I feel they are missing out on so much because of the way I am and I hate it. I seriously overthink every god damn detail of everything and talk myself out of things. I hate being like this.