Morning gloom

[WhyMrsRobinson]

Hello, just wondered if anyone else wakes up utterly miserable at the thought of another day? The days themselves are usually not so bad, it’s just the initial overwhelming gloom when I wake up. If anyone else gets it, how do you handle it?

I get this. I haven’t found a good strategy through it yet!

Yes! I get this. Sorry no advice, hanging around for the answer…

For me it was cutting out booze completely. Not even one glass.
I did that for four months and the mornings were much better.
However I’ve been drinking again and lo and behold it is back 😭

I get this, the best way I have found to handle it is from a mindfulness perspective. It is just a feeling. Awful and depressing I know, but just a feeling. It can be pushed past.

I get this.I can hardly bother to get up.

Definitely used to get this

But I've upped my iron and B12 B6 vitamin levels by taking an all in one tonic each day and it has made a huge difference - this was the change for me - made as much difference to how I felt as antidepressants which I used to take

Also just get a really nice morning routine going even if that means getting up an hour before everyone else in the house eg quiet 20 mins with a good coffee and toast in a nice dressing gown

Also sorting out clothes make up etc into a clear system and having a nice shower gel to look forward to each day helps me

Do you work? Any kids? Any hobbies you can look forward to each day?

@13579db. which tonic are you taking if I could ask?

Floravital tonic from Floradix

As soon as you wake up practice gratitude. If you have your health & you're gifted another day then get up, make a coffee & appreciate all the good surrounding you.

Yep I get this every week day. I don't know the answer.

Always on a Monday morning anxious about the week ahead.

Yep I wake up and the depression and anxiety comes flooding in stopping me from falling back over asleep sometimes I feel as if I never want to wake up 😞

Yes me too. For me it's more stomach churning anxiety that makes me feel like I am going to vomit. It eases a bit when I actually get out of bed but mornings are just awful generally, the only time I feel almost normal is the evenings. No idea what the solution is, I have just accepted it now.

I get this but not depression, its the worst anxiety ever. Its strange as it eases off by around lunchtime.
I've read it's to do with excess cortisol.

The only thing that helps me is to have a morning routine. Have a coffee when I get up, say my prayers, then go up for a shower and get dressed - that's the hardest part as it's so easy just to stay in pj's all day.

My old GP told me when I have a bad attack to hold my breath for as long as possible, it's like a distraction technique which does actually help.

Thanks everyone. It’s surprising and strangely reassuring how many of us get this. That’s interesting that it’s too much cortisol. Maybe excersise would help distribute it?
I’m going to take your advice and plan a nice morning routine and get up earlier I like the idea of nice shower get, coffee etc so that I have something to loo fo4ward to.
Maybe the old home office needs jollying up a bit.
And the idea of systems is good too. Definitely get overwhelmed.
LassyClassy, you’ve reminded me I was once told to take long slow breathes which fools your body into thinking you are calm. Sounds like the same idea.
And Floridix is on the list.
Also, thanks Iggly, that’s maybe it too- certainly the wines crept up lately.
It’s so good to know you are all there!

I have this too, feel exhausted and wake up worried. I’m not religious but I prayed this morning before I woke up to say thank you (to god??) that I’d woken up safe and well! I don’t know if it’s a coincidence but I felt much more motivated today. Morning routine, mediating at night, exercising in the morning (even if just a walk round the block or a short burst at home for a few minutes). I have to decide the night before and write it down/plan to do it, as I’ve no motivation or decision making ability in the morning.

Oh Brown76 that’s interesting that you felt more motivated after a thank you to..whoever is listening. I will try this. I know sometimes if you let yourself believe that there is a strong being guiding everything it is ridiculously reassuring. I guess maybe it takes you back to the feeling of security you had as a child? Or maybe there are deities looking out for us! Has anyone else felt like they were in tune with the universe and things went well, and then you kind of gat mis aligned again? Or am I just being woo?,!
Maybe it’s just being grateful as a super helpful pp said.

It’s still there. The immensity of getting through the day. But I woke early and read a good book which was a treat

Yes my anxiety is usually at its peak as soon as I wake up. I have anxiety and PTSD and I think as soon as I'm conscious my body thinks it has to be on high alert so I get a big adrenaline rush as soon as I'm awake. I hate it. And nothing seems to work. I've tried mindfulness, exercise etc.

Yes, another one here. I make a coffee and sit staring out the window for 5 mins (okay maybe 10) and at the weekend read a book. I am a sahm and have to get dc ready for school run etc. so don't always have a lot of time but then have to time to fill during the day with pre-schooler. I often think having a structure would help, though I am unable to return to work at present so need to look at ways of injecting enjoyable activities etc. into my week that involve getting me out of the house and being a bit busier. I don't have a large circle of friends and no extended family and I think that exacerbates everything because I don't have anyone to automatically talk to (husband works). I also have some recently diagnosed m/h issues and morning's are definitely the worst.

Interesting re. the adrenaline issue Blooter, it could be linked to my condition too.

Hi Daphnesmate. Just sending hugs. I know all about being suddenly a housewife and mum with no one to talk to. Of course mums get depressed!💐