I'm worried my husband may have depression. We have been together well over 30 years and he was always the most easy going laid back person I knew. We have 2 children, both now adults and living away from home. As we have aged my DH's worries and every day stresses which all families face have become noticeably harder for him to deal with. I have thought for a while now that maybe he has anxiety. In February of this year I was diagnosed with breast cancer. We were told right from the beginning that it was small and contained and would be easily dealt with, all of which was true. I had a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. I was very lucky to get away with not needing chemotherapy. I was treated very quickly and my treatment is now over, I just have to take hormone tablets for 5 years. I have been very positive throughout but there were days where I struggled a little and my DH was amazing. He supported me and looked after me amazingly well. Due to covid he was not able to come into a lot of the appointments with me, he spent a lot of time sitting outside waiting in the car. I knew he was constantly worried about me though. He has a full time job as well as running his own business from home which must have been exhausting for him, juggling that with having to self isolate with me and then running here there and everywhere to get me to appointments, of which there were loads! I finished treatment in May, just had a couple of follow up appts to attend and then my back which had been niggling away all through got progressively worse resulting in a herniated disc. I am pretty much bedridden and have had to rely on him for everything. I am going in for a steroid epidural next Tues so fingers crossed I'll start to improve after that and be able to get back to a bit of normality. Once again my DH has been amazing looking after me but I can tell he has struggled. We have had a couple of fraught moments where he has got to a point where I've felt he can't take any more. He has told me he feels completely helpless and cannot bear to see me in pain when there is nothing he can do. I have tried to reassure him that he is helping by supporting me and looking after me in a practical way. I am on a ton of painkilling medication, if that can't take away my pain then nor can he. I do understand how hard it must be for him to see me go through all of this and not be able to make it better. I have suggested to him a couple of times that he should maybe go to the gp and ask for some support for himself but his reply to that was "how can I tell the gp I can't cope with my wife being ill, this is nothing to what you're going through". I think I need to suggest that maybe he is depressed, but I don't think I will get a very good response to that. I also think I should wait until I am on the mend, he may feel then that he has more time to think about himself once I'm able to do more. I'm not sure what I'm looking for here? Just any suggestions on how I can help him and how to broach the subject with him. Thank you for reading if you've got to the end, that was really long!