Oh I have had enough of Xmas................join me if you want to moan about it but dont want to spoil others fun

[stoppinattwo]

Where do i start, I hate shopping, I hate all the hype I hate all the greed, I hate all the stress (my life is stressful enough) I hate all the pressure that TV puts on us to buy buy buy!!!.

and it will only get worse. Have just argued with my mate about Not buying presents for each others children - she thinks im being tight when i didnt want to do give that impression at all.

I do however love it for my children, it is magical and you cant beat xmas morning. All i ever want to do is the right thing. I know that the next 6 weeks is gonna be stressful shit and i need help to get through it. I just think things have got so shallow and I know im doing the right thing but I need reminding.

I want christmas to be two things, Simple and special ~(happy memories) nothing more.

Why do things have to be so complicted ??

my grandson died 1st dec last year of cot death we opened the first door on each of advent calendars and he died that evening, bought 3 this year and came home and cried buckets full, i should be happy recenly got new granddaughter and should be happy but i will never feel the same again at xmas,

hazygirl that is sad, your right you will never feel the same way, but hopefully you will find a way to get through it. Your grandson gave you precious and wonderful memories, you wont ever forget but you will are your grand daughter gets older find a way to enjoy xmas if it si just for her benefit ............

we all get so wrapped up in all the rushing around when really we need to be saying, just hang on a minute, this is all going a bit to fast for me I need time to think and reflect maybe, about things that this time of year remind me of. People i should be seeing and people who are having a really bad time who dont deserve it. All of you who have written stuff on here have a right to have your kind of christmas. Dont be worried about what others may make of it. Ive spoken now to all my family and told them how I want my families christmas to be. And surprisingly they all seem relieved.
It is quite surprising acutually now i have started to consciously take control of how things are going to happen over xmas how things have started to fit into place and I am starting to feel a bit more confident and a little less stressed

sorry HS meant "you will as your grand daughter gets older"

my fingers type too fast for my brain

Its difficult when something bad happens at this time of year. Its really difficult to just continue on with things.

Stopinattwo - I think I shall sit my DS down tonight and have a chat with him. He knows about the money situation [as much as a 7 year can understand] so perhaps if I explain things to him better.

I was quite angry with my parents as yesterday my mum said she has a list for me, of all the things the DSs have been marking on the toys catalogue!!!

They will be disappointed.

what you could say is you are glad that DS has made a list of things as it give father christmas a clue what he would like and still keeps it a surprise as you wont be sure what he will bring from your list. I told DS that although Father xmas brings presents sometimes mum has to send some money to FC to help him as he has so many to get That wya he will understand that there is a bottom to the seemingly endless supply of toys.

This week I have felt far more relaxed and happy, and almost looking forward to my week off with the kids

Thanks stopinatwo I think we will have that chat tonight.

I am quite annoyed with myself for building Christmas up to this level in the first place. It's almost as if the oldest expects everything on this list.

My brothers and g/p always ask what to get them, so they now have the a copy of the list and they can choose something from it, so at least they [dc] will get most of what they wanted.

Glad you are feeling brighter this week too. have a nice week with your dc.

Oh good luck HI..........I think it will make you feel better and a happy mum is a happy house.

I felt guilt at first, guilt because i thougt i was depriving the DC's of a good christmas, but now I feel relieved, there is no bad thing I am doing (oooooooh grammar!!!)

i am simply and purely tight.
I ADMIT IT,
TIGHT AS A VERY tight thing with double tightitis.
Hate spending money which actually can run into hundreds of pounds,
ive got 18 fecking kids to buy for, and 10 adults.

all iget in return is a £2.99 gift box with cheep disgusting smellies and a box of matchmakers.

im proper moaning you are all putting down sad stories to make me feel bad,

im sorry guys but im here to selfishly whine and moan and be unashamedly grumpy,

clearly for no good reason as you all have ACTUAL reasons to hate christmas.

i DO actually have a sad personal christmas story BUT i absolutley refuse to make me sad now that i have a ds.

i have to try dead dead hard to be jolly

lol you be as jolly as you want deeny and you right about getting naff pressies in return, it is really a wind up!!!........

Although it is all about the giving..........Yeah right