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Anyone else hit a rough patch? Support thread

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Wolfie11 · 20/06/2021 15:51

I’m pretty depressed and anxious just now. Have suffered with depression on and off for a while now but haven’t had a spell like this for years. I’ve got major money worries at the moment, had a pretty traumatic family bereavement the other week, some unresolved health worries and a messy/weird/confusing break up from my long term boyfriend. I took a week off work but I’m not sure it’s actually helped me feel any better, other than walking my dog and going to the shop if I absolutely have to I’ve basically spent most of it in my bed glued to my phone steadily getting worse and worse. The house is a mess, I’m a mess and I feel ridiculously guilty because I grew up with a mum who had ongoing mental health issues and I feel like history is repeating itself. She would spend all day in bed, the house was always a mess etc. I just end up feeling worse and the knot of anxiety in my stomach just gets tighter and tighter. So I’ve dragged myself up (we did go for a dog walk for 1.5 hours this morning) and I’m going to make a start on the house.

Is anyone else feeling down/depressed at the moment? Thought a kind of support thread would maybe be helpful, I couldn’t find one already.

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SnowyMouse · 20/06/2021 19:27

Can I join? I was discharged from hospital after a 3 month stay, feeling quite low still (but not as bad as I was).

Have you tried doing 5 mins worth of tidying, for example?

DaesieMay · 20/06/2021 20:21

I want to offer you a kind word and the only advice I have - hang in there and be kind to yourself.
I've spent yet another weekend trying to crowbar some enjoyment into it and completely lost it this morning. I can't tell if I'm depressed and put on a brave face half the time or I'm fine but just have blue days. People tell me I have it made : 2 working kids, 2 lovely dogs, nice home, secure jobs, loyal husband. Yet today I see a weekend has passed and I've picked up dog poo and been to Asda. I genuinely find it hard to chat in the office when everyone did something and I did nothing. My family is pants... Miles away and we never had anything in common. I've lost (through moves and illnesses/death) any close friends I had and it leaves husband who's redeeming features are that he's too dull to be a bother.
I don't think I've helped really and I don't want to make this all about me. I hope you can get a bit of relief so you can grasp it and build on it.
When I feel really down I almost give myself a limit to my wallowing (but I allow the wallow) it might be a cry, a tantrum or eating my body volume in chocolate. Then I tell myself "it will pass, you've been here before and it will pass... so just act like it has passed"... it sometimes works for me. But each time I do wonder who I'm kidding!
I seldom reach out and I bottle it up... you might have helped yourself some by just reaching out here xxx

Mrsnippycat · 20/06/2021 20:22

I'd like to join. Started on Citalopram this week following the unexpected end of my marriage after 20 years together. My anxiety is off the scale and my emotions are an absolute rollercoaster.
I agree with the poster above - start small. 5 minutes, or one job. Then another. And repeat.
Would love to get and give some support and hopefully we can get through our rough patches soon.

Dizzywizz · 20/06/2021 20:38

Hi 👋 I’d like to join too. That sounds bad @Wolfie11, yeah I can imagine if I took time off I would just stay in bed. Pps ideas of starting with just 5mins tidying are good.

I’ve always been depressed/anxious at varying levels, always on anti ds…currently in a bad flare too. Probably connected to a bad pain flare with my chronic illness and also feeling like I have no friends.

Dizzywizz · 20/06/2021 20:39

Or rather that I don’t see my friends that often and generally I feel like I’m always being a twat or saying stupid things when I see them so they probably don’t like me.

irishoak · 20/06/2021 21:42

I'd like to join....the past year and a half have been really rough. Husband's abuse ramped up last year, but I finally got rid of him at the start of this year. Trying my best to cope in a new country, all alone, little support from family, few friends (isolated myself from them during the abuse), working two jobs at the mo to try and pay down the debt he's left me with....I feel like the list goes on. I thought I was starting to cope with it all a bit better, then this weekend my family said some very insensitive things and I just feel really low again. I've been panicky and on the edge of tears all day, and my stutter (developed last year with the pressure of being shouted at all the time) has come back. My house too is an absolute tip, but it's so far down the list right now. Wish I had someone kind to help me and be nice to me, but that feels very out of reach these days.

XenoBitch · 21/06/2021 00:08

Can I check in too?
I was discharged from CMHT at the end of 2019. Now under Home Treatment/Crisis team. Daily visits :(
I was surprised at how readily they took me on... was prepared to fall into "the gap" of MH services (I have EUPD so was expecting it).
I can't talk to friends or family about how I am feeling. I struggle to word it at the best of times. Feel like an utter failure to be in this place again. I have done DBT twice. I feel like I have no excuse. My house is a shitehole, I absolutely stink, appetite has wandered off with my energy and mojo.

SnowyMouse · 21/06/2021 14:29

Hi all. Sorry you're all suffering so much Sad

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