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I don’t know what I want or what to do

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AddressLabel · 18/06/2021 11:19

That basically. I think I need help, but I don’t know where to start.
I’m usually fine, but right now I’m crying.
I hate my life. I hate my job. Then when I’m ok, I don’t really think like that, although I’m not happy with how things have turned out. Then I think I’m ungrateful, as I have a lot and other people probably love my life. I have a home and a family, and a well paid job. But I never wanted a family, it has just happened, and my partner is a greedy, fat, untidy slob. If we didn’t have a child I’d have kicked him out by now. Then I feel bad as he’s very caring and thoughtful in other ways and my son is a lovely boy. I love him to bits, but hate being a mother, and often resent it, it’s hard to explain.
I can’t concentrate properly, I don’t sleep enough as otherwise I just can’t get things done.
I make mistakes at work and there’s just so much I need to do it’s overwhelming. It takes me ages to do stuff and then I feel harrassed when people ask me for stuff. I’ve tried talking to my supervisor but don’t think he really understands. He just said to concentrate on x & y and anything else is a bonus. My mistakes aren’t very big mistakes, usually just typo type stuff I can correct at second check, but I never used to make them and it makes me feel shit and stupid.

I think I basically just want my life back to how it was pre child when I loved on my own. I was happier then. But that will never happen now.

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AnnaCharles888 · 18/06/2021 13:26

Hi OP, completely get where you're coming from.

I think you're being very down on yourself - probably overly harsh! - which will only make you feel worse. As for the thinking you're ungrateful - that might intellectually make sense, but it still won't change how you feel.

So here's a way to start addressing all this if you're up for it?

Write out 50 things that are great about your life. 1) You're a loving mother. 2) you have a home....

This isn't airey-fairy feel-good nonsense, but a factual assessment of all the good things in your life. Because if you only look at what's going wrong, you're only going to see other things that are going wrong.

Then I suggest you look ahead to the version of you in 10 years' time. What are you doing? Where are you living? Create a vision of what's better for you to aim for.

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