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Sertraline Has Ruined My Life

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Sarahfk · 14/06/2021 12:24

So on my 3rd breakdown in 2019 my doctor put me on sertraline 150mg and looking back over the past couple of years I just can’t believe how much things have changed in such a short space of time. I guess I’m wondering if anyone’s had any similar experiences.

First off I just want to say that I have diagnosed long standing anxiety and depression which my docs feel are genetic, runs in family and have advised that I will probably always need to be medicated.

Sertraline has enabled me to regain some confidence and get back on track in that I’m holding down a job for the first time in years and I’m more well than I was in that I’m not waking up every day crying and feeling like I want to end my life. That being said I still have down days and horrible thoughts so it’s by no means a happy pill.

Now for the negatives… I’ve gained 3.5 stone which was one of my biggest concerns having gained weight on meds before. It’s really impacted on my self esteem and confidence. I just don’t seem to care about the consequences of what I’m eating and overeating. It just kind of makes you feel like nothing matters which I guess is ok for anxiety but not much else. I’m the biggest I’ve ever been and my motivation levels to change things are so low.

And now for the big one…. Last year I got sucked in by a man and ended up having an affair which I’m not proud of at all. It was pretty out of character for me to actually do that and it’s not something I’ve ever done before. Again, at the time, I just didn’t really care about the consequences. I admit I wasn’t 100% happy in my marriage and our sex life had totally dried up but I can’t help but wonder if I would have done that if I wasn’t on meds?? So now a year on my husband and I are divorcing and I need to sell my home. All very stressful and sad. He is a good man and I left him for someone completely unreliable and well to be frank, a total tool. I still can’t believe I done it. Anyway I’m hoping deep down that everything happens for a reason and if I had been happy in my marriage then I wouldn’t have batted an eyelid at anyone else.

So now I’ve wound up single and alone. I’ve lost a lot of friends and had fall outs with family members which is to be expected after a 10 year marriage. I can honestly say it’s felt like I’ve hit rock bottom. I was the one who had the affair so I’ve naturally been outcast by people. The sad thing is my husband paid me no attention and it just felt it didn’t matter if I was here or not but no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. In everyone else’s opinion we had the perfect life so no one could get their head around why I did it.

Anyway… in the 2 years I’ve been on Sertraline all of this has happened and I feel like it’s effected my personality and judgement. I don’t know how to pick myself up again. I’m hoping I’ll look back on all this and see that everything happened for a reason and I hope I eventually find myself in a happier place. I genuinely feel that Sertraline has made me wreck less and I’m interested to know if anyone has had similar experiences as me.

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CinnabarRed · 14/06/2021 12:29

Kindly, I think you need to take responsibility for the choices you make.

coodawoodashooda · 14/06/2021 12:30

Try homeopathy

Bumpsadaisie · 14/06/2021 13:20

I think one of your difficulties may be that you see all your problems located "out there".

So the medication has caused the weight gain and the affair and the breakdown of your marriage.

Of course the reality is it hasn't although I can see like it feels to you like it has.

You've caused these things via the choices you've made.

It's very painful to realise this but it is the truth. The payoff is that if you can start accepting responsibility for these things then you can at least start to feel like you live in a world you are the agent of rather than feeling like "stuff happens to you all the time and you are helpless.

Feeling like you're in charge of yourself is the payoff for taking responsibility.

Not an easy thing to learn though.

Good luck.

Shinyflowers · 15/06/2021 10:11

@Sarahfk I think you’ve received some harsh comments. I truly believe Sertraline had a hugely negative effect on my son and don’t think he’ll ever fully recover or be the person he would have been if he hadn’t been prescribed it at 17. I’ll always blame myself for agreeing to it. It is a lethal drug IMO and should not be prescribed to under 18s under any circumstances. It changed his brain in so many ways and he still has insomnia, years later. He binged and vomited and destroyed his teeth (another problem not resolved), missed out on education, became suicidal and became totally numb. He took himself off it, cold turkey and was almost sectioned. I know it helps a lot of people but it also destroys many others.
I do hope eventually everything does work out for you, and these things did happen for a reason but taking Sertraline is not something I’d ever recommend to anyone, after seeing first hand the damage it did to my ds. I think Psychiatrists should be accountable for the medications they hand out like sweets to vulnerable people.

Chiffandbip · 15/06/2021 20:02

I have had no issues with Sertraline but I just take it for PMDD.

SunCatt · 15/06/2021 20:11

@coodawoodashooda

Try homeopathy
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