How to dig myself out of this hole

[Sadless]

I feel like I am stuck and I can't seem to do any thing what makes me feel any better.
Been thinking of ringing drs but don't really to tell them I am struggling.
Dont know what to do

Sal

Why don’t you want to tell them? That’s the best way to access help.

Please talk to your doctor. There is no benefit in just soldiering on without getting any help. You don't get extra brownie points for suffering alone.

You will feel much better if you take positive action to improve your situation. You can do this.

Would you feel able to email someone or send a message. You can get help without having to 'say the words' if that would be easier? I believe the samaritans offer various methods of contact for example.

I know it is scary to talk to even your GP but honestly you will feel relieved. I had to take the plunge the other day & I'm glad I did. He/she will be able to get you the help you need. Wish you all the best OP.

I will ring them tomorrow some times I just feel like its because I don't get enough sleep but I can fall asleep any time of the day really. Then I might have to tell my husband and he will probably say I am being stupid.

Thanks for the advice

Sal

Don’t tell him then! Say it’s something else if you feel you have to. Honestly you deserve to feel well and happy.

I think I would rather not tell him. He's been on and off tablets for years. He's properly got depression but just blames me for his life problems. I need to do some thing to change the way I am feeling.

Thanks
Sal

@Sadless

I think I would rather not tell him. He's been on and off tablets for years. He's properly got depression but just blames me for his life problems. I need to do some thing to change the way I am feeling.

Thanks
Sal

Gosh that doesn't sound very nice to hear. I agree just don't tell him but seek help for yourself. You cannot deal with his depressive state if your not feeling 100% yourself. Glad to read your looking into it 🙂

Did you manage to speak to Dr OP? Hope your doing oK today x

@Sadless, sorry to hear this. Here's something that I know works to get started:

1. Find ONE word to describe how you feel today (eg sad, frustrated, happy, glad…)
2. Find the sentence in your brain that is causing that feeling. Eg: ‘I don’t have a job’ / ‘I miss my husband.’ Be specific.
3. Create a new and true thought to think instead. EG: I’m applying for jobs to create a better future
4. Notice how the new thought creates a different feeling. In the example above the ‘I’m applying for jobs…’ thought makes me feel hopeful, whereas ‘I don’t have a job’ makes me feel deflated.

Then keep with the new thought, creating that new feeling. This will take effort but keep on it.

This is only the tip of what I could suggest, but it's a quick start method to get you moving right now. Give it a go.

Let me know how you get on/if you have questions.

I haven't rung yet but I will. I have had a few busy days and been trying to think more positively. I try to think things could be worse and I suppose they could but the feeling of wanting to run away is still there.
My husband mentioned getting help for his mental health the other day and I told him that I think I need to. He didn't really say anything about it. I will ring the drs tomorrow morning probably have to wait 3 weeks for a telephone appointment but needs to be done.

Thanks for the advice sal

@Sadless

I haven't rung yet but I will. I have had a few busy days and been trying to think more positively. I try to think things could be worse and I suppose they could but the feeling of wanting to run away is still there. My husband mentioned getting help for his mental health the other day and I told him that I think I need to. He didn't really say anything about it. I will ring the drs tomorrow morning probably have to wait 3 weeks for a telephone appointment but needs to be done.

Thanks for the advice sal

Taking the first step is hard but once your over that hurdle things become easier. Fingers crossed you get a quick consultation & don't have to wait too long x keeping yourself busy is actually helpful I find for me anyway.

@dane8

Sorry to highjack Wow Anna you certainly know how to change negative talk, wish I had that talent I really struggle with constant thoughts that go so quick, one after another which have a massive impact in my mood, feeling, motivation and cut myself off from people Mediation doesn’t work for me, don’t really think bringing myself to the breathe works either. I try to accept anxiety/depression but jealousy of other people getting on with their lives is soul destroying

Sorry to read your going through this. I sometimes find distracting myself works I.e binge watching a comedy or listening to music if you like that sort of thing. I tried reading a novel but that didn't work for me maybe it might for you x

Still haven't rung yet but doing it Monday morning I have delevelop a shake In my hand so need to ask about that and will add with the anxiety. I did 3 hours gardening yesterday and enjoyed it but don't know if that's caused the shake it's only when I grip something.
I have been doing housework little but often which seems to be helping a bit. I think doing things help but it's have the motivation to get going first that's the problem.

Sal

@Sadless

Still haven't rung yet but doing it Monday morning I have delevelop a shake In my hand so need to ask about that and will add with the anxiety. I did 3 hours gardening yesterday and enjoyed it but don't know if that's caused the shake it's only when I grip something. I have been doing housework little but often which seems to be helping a bit. I think doing things help but it's have the motivation to get going first that's the problem.

Sal

That sounds like anxiety shakes OP I used to have them but with my legs. Just try to relax your mind I know easier said then done 😔

Gardening is actually really helpful so glad to read your doing that.

Motivating yourself to do anything is hard but carry on xxx

Hi quick update spoke to Dr and she suggested I have blood test done to check for diabetes and vitamins levels. Had the blood test yesterday and today got a message saying I was deficient in folic acid. Could it be that what is making me feel like I do or is it just another problem.

Thanks

Sal