My partner spoke to my attacker behind my back

[Cresida]

I told my ex partner (while we were together) that I was sexually assaulted by someone we know. He’s not friends with the person but they know each other. Behind my back, while I was pregnant, he had a conversation with this person and asked them if they really did sexually assault me. Obviously the person denied it, he never told me he asked. I knew they had a conversation but my partner told me something entirely different from what was actually said.
The person who assaulted me was my landlord at the time. I went to pay rent in cash one day his first question to me was “why did you tell”. So I instantly knew what had happened.
I broke up with my partner that day and months later I asked him why he did that. His answer was “I wanted to get to the truth. You may be the kind of person that believes everything you’re told but I’m not so I wanted to know for myself if it was true”. 🙃 he doesn’t see anything wrong with what he did.
I’m interested to know peoples opinions on this

That's horrible, OP. I don't believe everything that people tell me either, but if my own partner opened up about something so personal, I would absolutely believe them. He sounds fucking stupid anyway - did he really think that your attacker would admit what he had done.

His behaviour was disgusting - so disrespectful and undermining. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, it's like being violated all over again by the person that you're supposed to be able to trust the most. You're well rid of him.

Utter misogynistic wanker. I bet he'd believe a friend whose house was broken into. Because only women lie. And you can believe a male acquaintance over your female partner. What a shitty excuse for a man.

I'm so sorry OP.

Disgusting.

What didhe think the guy was going to say FFS?

Having been assaulted and raped, I have finally learnt, the hard way, that those who doubted me have no space in my life. I'm not given to lying and I was clearly traumatised and their doubt re-traumatised me.

Sounds like you are best off miles away from him. Permanently.

You’re better off without him. It’s bizarre that he’s untrusting of a partners experience. It would make me wonder what sort of childhood he had. Were his own parents dishonest with each other? Is he a misogynist? Did he really think your abuser would tell the truth?

What the others said about your moronic ex. Glad you've dumped the shit. "Get to the truth" - so he didn't believe you but he believes your attacker. What an arsehole.

And "why did you tell"?! WTAF?! Because of course you have a duty to your attacker to keep what happened a secret Obviously not! How dare he ask you that! Well, except he dared to assault you so I guess normal rules of decency aren't going to apply for him.

Sorry you've experienced all this OP. Hope you have some good people around you.

This is one of the worst betrayals that I’ve seen here and there are some shit men around. What he did was shockingly heartless, misogynist and I think you did absolutely the right thing by kicking him out of your life.