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feeling alone and unsupported by family....

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rosebud1980 · 18/11/2007 13:40

im 7.5months pregnant and my husband is in the armed forces and is away until two weeks before the birth. I have a toddler whos really testing me and im just finding it a real struggle physically and emotionally.I feel abandoned by my husband and dont even want to talk to him on the phone anymore. I know its not his fault and he'd love to be at home to help but the fact is he isnt home.To top it off i have family who live close by but today is sunday and im spending the day by myself with my toddler. i sort of had an invite last night from my dad to go for tea but it was dependent on whether my step mum was well and he said hed ring-but i thought why mention it then until youve checked? He said he was cooking dinner but considering he lives 5mins down the road even if she wasnt up for entertaining you'd think hed bring the dinner up to me.

ive not even had any invites for the xmas period im assuming that il be going around to my mums but hasnt been mentioned. My mum is generally good though but even she has her own life. My dad helping me out is having ds even though he has him for his own enjoyment he never really does anything personally for me. Yet with my brother who's years older and is 36 still living with my mum they cant do enough for. my dad even takes him to work-my mums cooks his tea etc. i just feel like because ive got on in life no-body really bothers. Im lonely and im struggling yet no-one sees it-they just assume im ok.

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frazzledbutcalm · 18/11/2007 20:21

You need to tell everyone how you feel, how much you're struggling. They may all just assume you're coping fine as you're not a one to make a fuss. Asking for help is something i couldn't do when dc2 came along, i wished i had now. Be brave and let everyone know how you feel.

blanki · 20/11/2007 00:13

Just seen this, I hope that you are feeling a little better today. Agree with FBC, talking is really hard, but make sure you choose a good listener, I've used HV & my GP has also been fab at rough times. Your life is litterally all over the place, dp, parents, sibling{s}, you have a toddler {this part is a breeze though eh?! DS is 2 1/2!} AND you are pregnant, hormones must be racing!. Thats quite alot to deal with. Be kind to yourself, even if just a hot choc and feet up when lil one is in bed. Being lonely is hard, I know. But dont suffer in silence. I'm not all goody-two-shoes, but I have suffered alot and I believe that we all deserve happiness, including you, even me! If you cant find anyone better, there's always me! Take care

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