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Any experience with extreme paranoia and psychosis - step son

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spudsmama · 21/05/2021 21:07

Just want to reach out for help, advice or support with dealing with a family member who hads psychosis with extreme paranoia. My stepson(21) has drug induced psychosis which really kicked in in November 2019. He's been on and off drugs since then but, since his last binge, he's been scared sober after the development of some tactile hallucinations based on a previous trauma. He's currently living in supported accommodation but his paranoia is so extreme that everyone is talking about him and knows all his deepest secrets and things he's done in the past. He's currently getting psychotherapy once a week and has a drugs Councillor as well as family councillors with his dad to help work through the timelines of his life and traumas.

Ive known him for 7 years now and we had a really good and strong friendship but he has some trust issues with women and mother figures (mother was a drug addict, died in 2018, dad had custody since he was 6) There's little I can do in a hands on way at the moment as, since he has developed the psychosis, his mistrust of women and frankly anyone except his dad has gone out the window.

His dad does all the heavy emotional work, talks to him every evening, helps with food shops, visits after work and is absolutely exhausted. Whenever I hear them on the phone it's so hard to listen to him trying to convince you his hallucinations and delusions are real. All the advice about reassurance and distraction and acknowledgement of their feeling etc just don't wash with him. All he wants is for people to believe him that the sound of the motorbike outside is a secret message about him, or that the care worker who bring him his meds is saying awful things under his breath.

Reading that back it feels like I've just rambled inconsistantly! Theres obviously so much more detail I could go into but that's the basics or the situation I think! I'm m basically just looking for anyone who has any similar experiences and how you've coped and any strategies that have worked.

I just want to be able to help in any way that I can, it sucks feeling so helpless when my partner is carrying the whole load, I just want to be able to help both of them. All I can do is support my partner at the moment as best I can so being able to hopefully reach out to people with similar experiences can hopefully make us feel less alone, less hopeless and less sad.

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DogsAreHardWorkButWorthIt · 21/05/2021 21:15

I’m so sorry, we are going through similar with our DD. She’s formed delusions about me. My DH has to be the main support - for both of us.

Continuing with anti-psychotic medication seems to be very important, I think it’s very difficult to treat delusions otherwise. Possibly empathizing with how emotionally painful the delusions are for the individual- whilst not confirming them.

I hope someone more knowledgeable comes along.

Our DD doesn’t seem to be getting any support other than medication. I’m suffering; but her brain is really punishing her, and I’m just so sad that there’s not more help available (or at least an attempt at help).

spudsmama · 22/05/2021 10:06

Sorry to hear you are experiencing a similar situation. It really is a rotten illness and the main thing I find is it's just so overwhelmingly sad to watch them struggling so much.

Yes, meds seem to be the answer to getting some insight into their delusions. My DSS is on his second type of anti psychotic but this one doesn't seem to be having any effect at all so we will be pushing for a meds change next week I think.

The paranoia is the most exhausting part at the moment for us. You just want to grab them and shout at them that not everyone in the world is thinking about you and trying to ruin your life! It's such an insidious and narcissistic illness.

I have to keep reminding myself that while I can't be hands on helpful with my DSS, I can be there to support my partner and keep the home fires burning so to speak.

Feel free to come and dump and feelings or rants here whenever you feel the need!

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Tehmina23 · 22/05/2021 16:35

I've got Schizoaffective disorder & paranoia is my main problem at present.. I'm sat in Tesco cafe and I feel like these people are laughing at me for being alone right now and it's ruining my enjoyment of my coffee!
Work and everything else is quite difficult now.
My psychiatrist says because I'm on the maximum dose of Aripiprazole he won't change my meds but wants me to take Promethazine twice a day which is to control anxiety, also to take a course on anxiety management.
I didn't take the Promethazine today.

Kattymcg · 13/10/2021 21:53

Hi, I’m currently going through this right now with my partner! He’s had around 3 episodes al together in the space of around 5 years! He’s recently just stopped smoking weed again! So it’s made him start another episode! He doesn’t see it happening though and his word ‘he’s finally seein the world’ iknow when he hears the voices because he ‘coughs and shakes his head’ but try’s to hide it! He’s refusing to see a doctor because ‘he’s absolutely fine’ it’s so hard and upsetting! He’s now sayin he doesn’t want to be with me anymore because he’s got to be selfish and put himself first! Really don’t no what to do anymore!

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