I gave birth 11 weeks ago & my OH’s mental health has gone downhill & I don’t know what to do
He goes through phases of sighing , tutting , rolling eyes , “carefully” slamming things down.
Whenever I ask him why he’s done so , he always says he hasn’t. Even though I can see / hear / witness him doing so
I’ve asked him plenty of times what is the matter but he will not open up.
Yesterday , he admitted he doesn’t feel like a dad , that he hasn’t the energy to give to our son , & he feels like he does everything wrong. I've assured him he hasn't.
The irony in this is that my OH taught me how to feed , wind etc our son
OH was sexually abused as a child ( this is the trigger in most things related to his MH ). He’s had counselling in the past which has helped massively , almost transforms him into a different person.
He has nightmares about the ordeal also , & has mentioned in the past he is so worried about it happening to our son.
The situation is made worse that none of his family , including parents believed him. Even after the person admitted doing so
He made a appointment to talking matters about 2 months ago but is still waiting to be referred
What can I do to help ?
Can I ring a men’s charity for further guidance ?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated