My husband has always been a bit more of a serious and glass half empty personality but it seems to be getting progressively worse...a lot more so since we had our daughter.
- He constantly complains of being tired every single day, however he gets a normal amount of sleep. Our daughter sleeps badly but I usually cosleep with her the second part of the night and he never wakes up when she does. Because I do the nights my husband gives me an hour in the morning and he blames his tiredness on the early mornings (she wakes at 7!)..so now I've agreed to do every other morning but I can guarantee he'll still moan! He was tired before we had our daughter
- He's very negative about everything and is always complaining about other people or work or childcare responsibilities. He doesn't work full time at the moment, is working from home and isn't working late or weekends etc. He shouts with road rage and is very impatient...even if we go out for a walk he gets frustrated if people are walking slowly in front of them and is always huffing and puffing.
- He's completely gone off sex. We've always had sexual difficulties as he has delayed ejaculation but his desire has just got less and less. He didn't feel comfortable doing it when I was pregnant and we've barely done it since our daughter was born. If I bring it up he always gets angry and defensive and it always ends in a row..he says it's because he's tired all the time and because he's gained weight so he isn't confident but I know we had issues before this.
- He had a horrible childhood. Emotionally and physically abusive mother and bullying brother.
I've suggested he's depressed and to speak to a therapist but he gets very angry at the suggestion because he say's it's simple and it's because he's tired and gets angry because I'm not listening to him...I'm tired but I still feel like sex and sulk around miserable all the time.
I'm at a loss for what to do as any attempt at communication ends in an argument...I finally got him to agree that he will speak to someone in a couple of months if he doesn't feel better from me doing more mornings with our daughter..but I bet he won't.
I'm pregnant again and wondering what the hell I've done as he's just being really unpleasant to be around. He doesn't make me feel good about myself..he doesn't like me cosleeping with our daughter and thinks I should leave her to cry. I don't see how it affects him as I deal with it and he tries to make me feel bad about it by saying 'everyone thinks I'm wrong' even though it's exactly what my mum did with me and I have friends who do it. He blames this also on the lack of sex even though I start the night in our bed and we weren't having sex before she arrived.