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Anxiety any help really appreciated

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Elephant2010 · 29/04/2021 22:40

Hello,

I’ve been generally anxious for as long as I can remember, I’m pretty sure this relates to my childhood (parents divorce etc). Since I had my children (now 11 & 7) this has been heightened. I am terrified of something happening to them or me. I have attended for CBT which helped for some time. I work full time in a high stress job (community mental health nurse). I have a partner who tries to understand & is supportive but struggles. Over the past few months we have moved house, we had covid (my partner is immunocompromised) I am so grateful & feel so lucky that we came through it okay. Around the same time my brother aged 30 who I am very close to has been diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer, it is treatable. Work has been stressful continuously & I try to give 100%, I am proud of my job & feel I do my best but I am really struggling to find balance in my life, I feel constant guilt that I’m working & when the weekend comes although I try I’m tired & the kids know this. My son has developed a stutter & although I know this can happen I feel it must be my fault. My anxiety has peaked since we moved & I have felt low, panicky, tearful a lot. A few days ago I felt a rush of warmth through my body & as though I might die, I felt abit disconnected from my body & since then I have felt a variety of physical symptoms such as weakness in my arms, as though I might collapse (I haven’t) headaches almost daily, mild chest pain & shortness of breath (oxygen sats are fine). I have consulted my GP who thinks it’s anxiety related. I have a history of health anxiety too. I guess I feel ashamed that I am not coping well especially with my job, I feel that I should be doing better & should recognise the symptoms/know what to do but I feel very worried at the moment. Can anybody relate or help with any advice please? I should add I have used alcohol to cope in the past (up to a bottle of wine a night) but not for some time, initially the abstinence helped but now I feel I’ve really got to face my anxiety not mask it & it’s hard.

Thank you in advance.

OP posts:
FortunesFave · 29/04/2021 23:27

You need to firstly book off work with a letter from your GP. Then you need to strongly consider looking into a new career. You're in the sort of job that would make the most balanced person stressed out...

Did the GP not suggest time off?

Whineandwine · 01/05/2021 15:19

Hi, OP. I absolutely can relate and I’m so sorry you are feeling like this. If CBT helped in the past can you reactivate sessions for that? You won’t always feel this terrible just need to work through it and be kind to yourself - that’s what I keep telling myself at any rate!

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