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Too tired to continue putting up a fight

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TruelyWonder · 24/04/2021 17:29

Hi
Firstly I am not suicidal. However I just don't want to be alive anymore. Over the last 18 months I have been almost continuously ill. Had to stop working because of hospital appointments and admissions. On so much medication I rattle and it doesn't keep me comfortable half the time. All I really want to do is sleep 24/7 but rarely get even 5 hours. My body hates me apparently.

Anyway waiting for results of some tests. There is a good chance that I will need at least one operation and treatment to survive if the results are positive. However I don't think I can do that. I don't think I want to do that. Just getting drugs to keep comfortable and not fighting it seems a better option. I have never been afraid of death. So suppose this seems reasonable to me.

Saying all that I would never actually commit suicide or go to dignitas because the effect on my husband and children. This does seem like a good way for me to bail out without them being more hurt than needed though. If I just tell people my illness is too far along to be treated (Which could happen depending on the results I get anyway). A family member dead early from this illness. So no one would doubt what I am thinking to say.

My question I suppose is fo people think this is logical or am I deluded and actually suicidal? I definitely don't think I am. However can't talk to anyone in real life about this. So thought why not hear what others here think my mental health is like at the moment.

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Tehmina23 · 24/04/2021 20:08

To be honest you sound tired and also quite depressed- which is normal with a chronic illness I would think.

I personally think that what you are proposing does sound suicidal though.
Could you talk to your GP or Nurse Practitioner and tell them in confidence you feel that way... if you were to try anti depressants (I know, it's one more tablet...) then after a couple of weeks you could be thinking & feeling very differently.

I felt very depressed for a few years & it felt 'normal' to want to die (and I was very fit) until the drs got my anti depressants right.. then it was like a revelation! I felt positive about life, and definitely didn't want to check out!

I do understand the taking lots of meds thing as I have epilepsy & Schizoaffective disorder so take up to 18 pills daily.

The huge difference between you & me is that you have your own family who love you and need you well.
I have only to live for myself.
But don't leave your family. Keep fighting; and do think about trying anti depressants as the right ones can change your entire view on life.

TruelyWonder · 24/04/2021 22:09

I have had depression before when my father died. My GP gave me some pills then. So not against that idea. This just doesn't feel the same. Then I was tearful and my mood was like a rollercoaster. Whereas at the moment I feel really peaceful with this idea. Kind of a relief really. The thought I wouldn't have to spend my life being half of what I used to be.

The fact my husband is such a good man and father means I don't feel the kids need me so much. I don't what them living with a sick parent for years. Not one that is so obviously in pain. It is all so very unfair.

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TruelyWonder · 24/04/2021 22:10

*want not what

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Tehmina23 · 25/04/2021 22:09

Hi sorry not replied sooner, was at work today!
I think you can still be depressed without feeling tearful all the time.. it could just be underlying.
I honestly don't believe your kids would be better off without you.
I do know chronic pain is debilitating because both a cousin and one of my best friends suffer from it for different reasons.

But I still think you need to discuss your feelings with a healthcare professional in real life and be honest with them.. they probably will then recommend anti depressants and I think it wouldn't do any harm to try them for a few weeks?

TruelyWonder · 25/04/2021 22:23

No problem Smile

I will have to talk with my doctor once these test results come back anyway. Make a plan about what happens next and all that. Think they will probably ask me to see a psychologist for thinking this way anyway. Will just see for now if yhese feeling pass.

Spent most the afternoon and evening arguing with people on various threads about racist ideas. So that has been a distraction. So really ignorant posters on mumsnet today. Think they must of been out to the pub at lunchtime or something.

Anyway thanks for your replies. It was good to get someone elses opinions ❤

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Tehmina23 · 26/04/2021 16:17

That's ok. I agree there are lots of racist posters around... gets my blood pressure up!

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