Overly stressed and sensitive to other people's arguments.

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I just can't cope when Other people argue. I'm overly sensitive to arguments and I can't bear it when people pile on in instead of backing off. My DS and DH often lock horns and shout at eat other.

My DS, young adult, has had a very hard time recently but he is often looking for an opportunity to release some anger. I tend to walk on eggshells around him which I know is not good either but the effects of being around the arguments seriously damage my mental health and can leave me feeling fragile for days.

How can I toughen up ? I tend to just take myself out of the situation when I sense the tension but I seem to be super sensitive as my alarm bells go off way before anyone else's. I'm sure it's due to some traumatic instances in my childhood but I really need to desensitize myself. Any ideas ?

Started a post and lost it grr. It was just to say I'm assuming you try to encourage him distracting himself to calm down or taking himself away for some time alone. I think you have to enforce those when you can see he's struggling, and having a I know things have been tough, how can we work together conversation. Having support for you to talk about these things is important too Op .