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Mental health

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Help - do I leave

7 replies

doveexplore · 10/04/2021 21:16

First post on here and after some advice.

I feel so down at the moment and on edge, as I think my OH is going to end our relationship. We've been together 2 years and he has ended things twice. I feel like I can see it coming again.

He is down at the moment; we had an argument last week where I brought up his online msgs that he sent another girl whilst we were together. Since then he's said it's not going to work if I can't move on. He's also had a lot of family issues going in and he has been very distant and cold. I know he's totally fed up with a lot of things at the moment and I'm trying my best to support him, but I don't ever feel good enough.

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bluejelly · 10/04/2021 21:27

He sounds hard work and potentially unfaithful (or considering it). He's not making you happy. Why not end it and give yourself the opportunity to meet someone kind and supportive?

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doveexplore · 10/04/2021 21:39

When he's not like this, he makes me the happiest I have ever been. Things are amazing. Just feel like once every 6 months he goes through this 'phase'

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Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 10/04/2021 21:45

He's a twat and you deserve better. Leave him, find happiness

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doveexplore · 10/04/2021 21:48

Thank you. I think I am just scared of being on my own...how pathetic

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LIZS · 10/04/2021 21:50

Are you young? He does not sound as committed as you to making it work.

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doveexplore · 10/04/2021 21:55

I am 33 he's 32

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jessstan2 · 11/04/2021 00:33

You are still young, Dove. There's no reason to think you will be on your own forever but you do need to cope with being alone for a while.

This man is no good for you, he obviously isn't settled. Please don't try to hang on to the relationship, free yourself and him. To stay with him will be miserable and there's no point in that.

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