Alone

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I have no mates that I would chill with in my free time or chat with. I go to college but all I do is sit in the canteen in the corner alone, watching ksi or other YouTube videos and in class when we have to work as a team I work alone most of the time. I just don’t want to be like this and I've tried to speak to people but it's hard because I get turned away. I just don’t know how to be happy because I am not feeling confident in myself. I come home where I live with my siblings and parents and I just watch videos on cars.

Ah love. It’s hard isn’t it. Well done for trying with new people. My advise would be to definitely speak to your Mum or Dad about it. A problem shared always helps to relieve the weight of it.
What course are you doing at college?

@Vickles20

Ah love. It’s hard isn’t it. Well done for trying with new people. My advise would be to definitely speak to your Mum or Dad about it. A problem shared always helps to relieve the weight of it. What course are you doing at college?

I'm kind of doing a life skills course and it is meant to be an employment pathway course

Is there someone at College you could talk to, a Tutor or Counsellor, in case you’re not sure about talking to your parents? They may be able to signpost you to a supportive group of people who are partaking in a hobby/sport you may be interested in? I’m aware it’s not so easy currently, with restrictions in place, but maybe there are some plans you could make for the near future?

Ok. Sounds good. Is it your first year on this course? As in, did you join in September just gone? It’s so hard to make new friends anyway, but during covid, when people are hesitant to meet to new people.
You say when you try to speak to people you get ‘turned away’. That sounds hard love.
I know my daughter, 16, has tired to connect with new people this year and she too felt like stopping as people didn’t seem interested. But I just said to her, keep on trying, you never know, you might get lucky and strike gold. I think she’s a bit more settled now. But I remember too how hard it is to make new friends when you’re younger. I think you all deserve gold medals, especially with bloody covid around us all.
Honestly, speak to your parents love. See what they say. Or, if they aren’t approachable, how about a tutor/teacher at college.
You mentioned you struggled to find a group to join a team in class. If you spoke privately to the tutor/teacher and say your struggling to make new friends and that you’re feeling lonely and sad. Ask if they could help arrange teams in the class and he or she organise the teams.
How about that love?
I think just hang on in there. You’re doing so well. And well done for asking us on here.
The first step to trying to make yourself happier.
Let us know how you get on.

@CrispsnDips

Is there someone at College you could talk to, a Tutor or Counsellor, in case you’re not sure about talking to your parents? They may be able to signpost you to a supportive group of people who are partaking in a hobby/sport you may be interested in? I’m aware it’s not so easy currently, with restrictions in place, but maybe there are some plans you could make for the near future?

The staff aren't very good here. I want to be able to drive which will be a hobby but I can't take a test during lockdown and it sucks because I just can't go out because I hate buses

@Vickles20

Ok. Sounds good. Is it your first year on this course? As in, did you join in September just gone? It’s so hard to make new friends anyway, but during covid, when people are hesitant to meet to new people. You say when you try to speak to people you get ‘turned away’. That sounds hard love. I know my daughter, 16, has tired to connect with new people this year and she too felt like stopping as people didn’t seem interested. But I just said to her, keep on trying, you never know, you might get lucky and strike gold. I think she’s a bit more settled now. But I remember too how hard it is to make new friends when you’re younger. I think you all deserve gold medals, especially with bloody covid around us all. Honestly, speak to your parents love. See what they say. Or, if they aren’t approachable, how about a tutor/teacher at college. You mentioned you struggled to find a group to join a team in class. If you spoke privately to the tutor/teacher and say your struggling to make new friends and that you’re feeling lonely and sad. Ask if they could help arrange teams in the class and he or she organise the teams. How about that love? I think just hang on in there. You’re doing so well. And well done for asking us on here. The first step to trying to make yourself happier. Let us know how you get on.

I've been on the course a few years because of covid last year I had to redo it

Driving lessons can start back on Monday Could you get booked up?

I'm 20 so I'm an adult and feel embarrassed that I'm still at college and shit

@Vickles20

Driving lessons can start back on Monday Could you get booked up?

I might do some lessons

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Hey. Don't feel embarrassed to be at college at 20 love. Be proud of yourself. For working towards something. Making something of yourself.
Yes parents never stop worrying about our children. Even when they're adults.

Yay. Yes. Book some lessons. That would be amazing. Something to look forward to.

You said the staff aren’t brilliant. Is there not someone there you could talk to? Not one member of staff?

@Vickles20

Hey. Don't feel embarrassed to be at college at 20 love. Be proud of yourself. For working towards something. Making something of yourself. Yes parents never stop worrying about our children. Even when they're adults.

Yay. Yes. Book some lessons. That would be amazing. Something to look forward to.

You said the staff aren’t brilliant. Is there not someone there you could talk to? Not one member of staff?

Not really. The staff said I was being judgemental because I said im upset about not being able to drive and I said the bus was embarrassing because I was unhappy using it then they said I am being judgemental and people in my class called me snobbish

Ah dear, ok. You’re obviously upset that you’ve not been able to have any driving lessons.
But you can do something about that from Monday. Whoop! Exciting times for you.

@Vickles20

Ah dear, ok. You’re obviously upset that you’ve not been able to have any driving lessons. But you can do something about that from Monday. Whoop! Exciting times for you.

I was upset because im this age and not passed my test yet because most pass at 17 or 18

I know. I understand. I took 3 times to pass my test and that was yonks ago before they introduced the theory test! I got there in the end. And so will you.

@Vickles20

I know. I understand. I took 3 times to pass my test and that was yonks ago before they introduced the theory test! I got there in the end. And so will you.

Cheers

If it helps I didn't pass until 25. I learnt at 18, failed my test and went to uni where I didn't need a car. Wasn't until I was living with my boyfriend and he basically lit a fire under me to get my license.

My SIL is 35 and has learnt lots but never taken a test.

A lot of people don't get their license straight away at 17. Especially if they live somewhere more urban with good public transport.

Is there a welfare officer you can speak to?

@Twizbe

If it helps I didn't pass until 25. I learnt at 18, failed my test and went to uni where I didn't need a car. Wasn't until I was living with my boyfriend and he basically lit a fire under me to get my license.

My SIL is 35 and has learnt lots but never taken a test.

A lot of people don't get their license straight away at 17. Especially if they live somewhere more urban with good public transport.

Is there a welfare officer you can speak to?

No one speaking atm. I just been alone tbh

Have you passed your theory test? If so then start up lessons again from Monday and get the test booked ASAP as I bet there will be loads of backlog! Have you got a part time job? That's a good place to meet friends and get some extra cash so you can get a car

@Veronicatheboss

get some friends innit

Lovely response.

Even though it's a zombie thread

Please do be kind

🙄🙄🙄🙄

@Veronicatheboss

get some friends innit

There's always one c**t isn't there.