How do you find a good counsellor, what type do you look for and can you get it on the NHS

[fairyfly]

Any ideas?

Thanks Nasa

this might help
\www.psychnet-uk.com/psychotherapy/summary_of_therapy_types.htm\definitions of different therapies}

hmm - flaw in mumsnet new underlining thing means that this link won't work.copy and paste this into your browser.
www.psychnet-uk.com/psychotherapy/summary_of_therapy_types.htm

but instead of therapy being underlined there should be an underscore after summary, after of and after therapy. hope that makes sense! It's a useful definition of diferent therapies

this might be a better way to explain it
www.psychnet-uk.com/psychotherapy/summary_ of therapy types.htm

I've had to put in spaces after hte underscores to stop it underlining the words!

Thanks yep it does make sense, the good thing about firefox is that you don't have to cut and paste just right click on a link to send the web to it, thought i'd pop that random fact in her. Thanks again Nasa

mmm,, not heard of firebox, interesting. Tell you what, there's a hell of a lot of different therapies!

oooh, FF, just logged on and seen this - wonder if her transactional psychotherapy is the same as the TA that the college one does? Not surprised you don't want to go, I wouldn't want to go, can imagine sitting there twitching and jumping every time she speaks (me, that is!) but I'm glad you are, I bet she is much less frightening than she sounds on the phone, maybe this will move your life forward again!

Friday was no prob for me darling, hope it helped you a bit. And has anything happened yet with DS1 or have I just not got to that thread yet?

Janh I have a meeting for ds1 tomorrow, its a week of appointments, i feel so popular
Yes it did help, thanks again, now i am off to the gym to kill the punch bag x

Well i went and i have got to say it was very enjoyable. The lady was lovely, she was very complimentary, which is always good. All i did was answer a ton of questions and talked about myself. What a great way to spend an hour.

wahey, ff! that's great news, good for you

Cheers Bundle

yeah, excellent
really pleased ff

Thanks Nasa, glad i didn't bottle out now. Still don't really understand how it works but i trusted her and felt warmed to her, so thats the first thing i was worried about sorted out.

that's the most important thing ff. As long as you get on with her the rest will follow.

mmmm well i went last week and HATED IT, im due to go in 15 minutes and am dreading it. Awkward, embarassing, deflating, intimidating, is this the point??

ime counselling sessions can be really hard and leave you feeling like shit afterwards, but that may be because you've stirred up difficult feelings, in which case it's a positive thing really iykwim ...

ff
keep at it - it's really worth it. it's scary discovering things about yourself and your feelings so you will naturally feel all those things you said.

why don't you tell your counsellor what you've said here - how you feel about the counselling so far......i bet you'll feel better if you do.

good luck!

Im starting to wonder the benifit of sitting in a roon for an hour being pushed to feel like crap. I burst out laughing and got told i was hiding things, ooo cringe cringe cringe.

will do turkey, its just i feel quite happy until i start thinking of things, wont give up though. Good idea re telling her, she doesn't say anything, i just witter on as i hate silence.

IKWYM

I've had a few bouts of counselling over the years. A couple of times it was really useful, and a couple of times it really wasn't. On the occasions that it wasn't I think it was because I wasn't ready to confront stuff and it just made me feel dreadful, so I stopped going. It's not something you can force imo - when the time's right it's great, but if the time's not right it won't help much.

cheers donkey xxxxxx i also no they're are things not even discussing as i can do nothing about them and it seems a waste of energy to complain. I prefer having positivity and discussing the things that can be changed. Oh well hon, im off, hope you alright .