Advice on how to stop trying to please others and stop comparing

[Aimee8709]

I suffer from anxiety and depression. It comes and goes in waves.

I am quite a worrier and always feel like I have to try and please everyone. Also I constantly compare myself to others and feel like all my friends are doing so much better than me and it really gets me down.

I feel so negative about so much too.

I need to try to teach myself to stop trying to please everyone, to stop comparing and to try and be more positive - I know I need to do this but I can't manage to make it happen for some reason?

Any advice/tips welcome.

I guess the answer would be to build up your own self esteem. I realise this is harder said than done but it will help you in the long run.
You could perhaps try to set little goals for yourself and then look back at what you have achieved.
I’m not a therapist but maybe talking to one could help.

I feel very similar. I try to limit social media and celebrate small wins. I also try to tell myself that will all make mistakes and it's natural not to get on with everyone. Easier said than done perhaps! So, exercise, good people, limit social media and watch the self-talk- especially anything that starts with a "should"! You could try online CBT or talk to GP if you think you need more. All the best