Having to have an abortion

[Twfj]

Hi am just wondering if any of you lady's have been in situation like mine and got through it. I am currently 12 weeks pregnant only found out 2 weeks ago I've gone back and forth about having a termination but have decided to have one even though I know it will break my heart I want to keep baby but I just know I can't I already have 4 children 10 year old 5 years old 18 month old and 7 month old I love all my heart but I live in a small house that's already overcrowded and me and my partner relationship isn't that great at the minute so don't think it would be fair to bring a baby into this and not fair on the children I already have but I have also had 3 miscarriages which devasted me so to go through with this is going to break me but I know it's the right thing to do I just would like to know if anyone has been through a similar situation and gone through with it and been ok in then end. Booked in for a week today and dreading it

Have you been offered counselling? This sounds very upsetting

You definitely need to sort out reliable contraception immediately after having the termination. Maybe be sterilised. Then you won't have to face this sort of worry again. You have four children, two of whom are only babies; the idea of introducing another baby into your scene is frightening so please don't break your heart over it.

(By the way, your first sentence was the longest I have seen on Mumsnet :-).)

FortunesFave I have yes for afterwards . I've never had counselling before,but I know it's needed with this.

Jessstan2 the hospital is going to give me contraceptive afterwards. I am on the pill so was shocked to find out I was pregnant again. I know it's the right thing to do, but still will break my heart.
Lol I never do my grammar when on my phone and trying to write message with both my babies on my knee not an easy task.

Also I have struggled to get the coil done as with covid clinic near me is backlogged and not been able to fit me in.

You'll get over it, Twfj. People do, life goes on and you have children to look after.

Maybe the implant would be better for you than taking a pill but do consider sterilisation for one of you.

Very sorry op - make sure your GP offers you counselling. You have a lot to occupy you so you will get through it, and it really would be impossible to have another baby in your situation.

Would you consider sterilisation or an implant, just to avoid you going through this again?

Hi there, your situation sounds incredibly difficult. Have you thought about having the baby and putting it up for adoption? Sending love x

@Hadara1

Hi there, your situation sounds incredibly difficult. Have you thought about having the baby and putting it up for adoption? Sending love x

That's not helpful at all. She shouldn't feel pressured to have a baby simply so another couple can be given a baby. That's ridiculous.