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Regret changing my name in a mental health crisis

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be133345 · 10/03/2021 07:51

About 3 years ago I went through a horrendous trauma and with all the associated police paperwork etc. I began to even more consciously dissociate from my birth name that I had never liked.

I changed my whole name and 3 years later I have a thriving business, recorded endless videos in that name, been quoted in books, and am very much known by it.

After getting a diagnosis of PTSD I finally feel in a place to work through the trauma and I know part of it is reclaiming my birth name but I'm so scared of confusing and angering people who worked so hard to adjust their speech for me. The meaning of my birth name I find beautiful now and fits me.

What would you do?

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AreTurnipsReal · 10/03/2021 07:53

Change it back. Noone will be angry x
Glad yo hear you are doing well.
It is not a big deal to others like you think in your head, promise.
If anyone Does a problem with it, is a plonker and in the wrong.

FeckTheMagicDragon · 10/03/2021 07:54

Start using your original name in private and keep your ‘official’ name for public and go from there.

MarieFromStTropez · 10/03/2021 07:54

If it will hurt you professionally, then leave it.

Champagneandmonstermunch · 10/03/2021 07:55

Could you continue to use your new name for business, and just start using your birth name privately? Lots of people are known by a different name professionally, so it would not be that unusual, and means you would only need to have conversations about why, with people who you know well, and would hopefully be comfortable sharing your reasons with?

Chimoia · 10/03/2021 08:13

No regrets. Make the decisions that feel right on the different stages of your journey and keep moving forwards.

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