To ask how people cope

[normalnormas]

How be people cope with adversity when they have nobody at all , no family, no friends, just their work colleagues ? With covid and everything else how do they keep going ?

Are you ok?

If you need to talk to somebody you can call the Samaritans. They will listen non judgementally.

I hope you are ok. I understand it must be a real struggle without any support.

I live by Churchill's mantra

When you're going through hell, keep going.

Regular MNer, NC.
I have no one. No family, no kids, no real friends. Not even work colleagues.

I too use the Churchill mantra. When you're going through hell, keep going.

I have no purpose.

No not really ok..up and down. I am keeping going but how to do it and keep a brave face and smile ?

Please don’t give up. Even if you think no-one cares, there’ll be someone there who does.

You dont have to smile, its not your job to make everyone else feel better

@normalnormas, remind yourself of any tiny snippets of good in your life.

You don’t have to keep a brave face, it’s ok not to be ok. Please reach out to people if you can. There’s a helpline called Mindline to get things off your chest, numbers are on here www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helplines/

The churchill motto

Also some people genuinely have a very strong sense of self purpose, they are motivated by a desire to succeed/survive for themself alone.

Keep talking about it. Talk to us. It helps.

The fact that you are here and reaching out for support is a sign of strength and emotional resilience, the acknowledgement of how you feel. You can get through this and there are better days ahead.

Do you have any special places in your life?

A favourite holiday or leisure location, a place where you have felt happy/at peace/relaxed?

When I'm in a truly shit place I do visualizations. I imagine myself in that place, I really lose myself in it, imagine it in detail and think of what I would be doing and how it would look and sound and feel. I find it really helps me to get a break from the bad things and give me a mental lift.

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.
We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

We are going to move this thread to the Mental Health section shortly.

Do something for you, however small, to remind yourself you are very much important and worth looking after. A walk somewhere new, buy a cheap bunch of daffodils, read a couple of chapters of a book, listen to a song from a happy time in your life etc. And try and be mindful of those few minutes how you feel.