Starting to feel he's seeing someone else again...which of course he is'nt

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About 3 or 4 months ago I had a really bad time thinking my DH was about to leave me.

He had given me absolutley no cause to feel this way and I could'nt explain to him why I felt like it. I put it down to a bit of PND. DS will be 1 next month and those early feelings of him getting ready to leave me are creeping in again.

My HV has told me to get in touch if this starts again, last time it was picked up on a questionnaire, but I am so worried they will read more in to it than there is and they will take it too far.

Am hoping to go home tonight and tell DH about how I feel to try and nip it in the bud.

sounds to me like you have insight into the fact that it IS possibly PND.

i always think that it is better to deal with things quickly rather than letting them escalate.

why wait and let your hv pick up on pnd? i would approach her yourself, tell her that you have noticed your mood deteriorating (no need to give too much detail) and ask for advice on what to do next.

always better to be pro-active. that way, you get the help but keep control of the situation. if you are factual and aware, professionals are less likely to be concerned.

Hey, listen its normal to feel like this. I also went through a trial like this with my husband, it will pass,just as it has arrived.
I know its dead hard talk to your Husband incase you get any indication of the worse???!!! believe me once you share it and both of you have a good cry over it, (you see Men desire attention, but thats all, thats normally how far they will ever let it go),and they enjoy it.it doesnt mean they are going to leave.( see i thought the same as you.) and listen both of you will become stronger... this will pass trust me.x TOU[big grin]

Thanks, have spoken to HV and she is coming to see me at home tomorrow.

Also told DH it's happening again and at first he laughed then realised when I burst in to tears it's a bit more than a joke, so he is doing his best to help and understand me!

What also helped was speaking to a friend in RL who told me she has just gone through similar, and we talked loads and found out we had a ton of stuff in comon so have agreed to meet on an evening DH is out at mine for a bottle of wine and a chat....

Am feeling much more happy today than when I wrote the OP. And have noticed that the feeling are normally accompanied by a lack of interest in food...hence last night and Oxo cube in a mug of hot water!