To call 111

[IcedCaramel]

Can you call 111 if you’re suicidal ?

Yes you can. Or 999. Please do.

www.nhs.uk/using-the-nhs/nhs-services/mental-health-services/where-to-get-urgent-help-for-mental-health/

It suggests your local urgent mental health helpline, but 111 if that's not available.

@Purplewithred thank you. I have my baby with me I was worried they’ll take her away from me . But I really need help and I’m home alone

@lanthanum thank you x

@IcedCaramel hope you are okay. Yes definitely ring 111 or 999. Do you have anyone you can tell or who can come over x

@justgivejack my husband is out, A friend came round last night when I told her I was in crisis and she’s saying if that’s what it’ll take to get me the help I need then I need to call but I’m worried what will happen to my daughter . My head is a mess . I feel like my marriage is falling apart too . I’m not sure whether to go for a walk first ?

You should call 999 this is an emergency . Don't feel guilty.

If you think you'll be quite safe going for a walk, it won't do any harm. But if you think there's any risk you'd do anything inadvisable, just get on and make the call.
I don't think they're in the business of separating mums and babies if it can possibly be avoided, so make the call to get the help you need.

Your baby will be okay please don’t worry, just call 111 and explain they are there to help you. You’re not well and you need help, it’s not your fault at all. Pick up your phone type in 111 and press the dial, whatever happens after will be okay I promise xx

You can call 111 or 999, if you can get to A&E you can go there or to your doctors. Explain how you are feeling, you will be supported. It's literally a matter of life or death being suicidal. I'm sorry you're feeling like this, I've been there many years ago and it's really hard just to admit you need help so be proud of yourself for that

Getting help shows you are making your babies safety a priority. You won’t be penalised for this. You may be offered support but they won’t take away a well cared for child because their parent is unwell. You are not a bad parent, you are ill.

999 my lovely. Just like you would for any other health emergency xx

Ring your friend, could she look after the baby? Can you ring your husband? Can he come home? You need urgent assistance for you.

Yes you can, please do. Or 999. They really won't mind.

You've recognised you need help so this is a good thing.

Well done for being prepared to ask for help- you can phone either 111 or 999 or go to your local A&E. They will not turn you away. Your baby will likely be given to your husband to look after, they won't take your baby away if you're not a threat to them and your husband or a close family member is able to help care for them. Contact them now, tell your husband and friend what you're doing. You're going to be okay xx

How are you doing op?

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

We are going to move this thread to the Mental Health section.

Thank you everyone crisis team saw me and I’m being seen by a psychiatrist on Tuesday

Ah I’m glad you called them @IcedCaramel

Hopefully they’ll get you on a treatment plan and you’ll see brighter days xx

Take care @IcedCaramel well done for getting help .

Sending hugs @IcedCaramel well done on reaching out . I have been thinking about you , take care .

Hope the psychiatrist can help, well done for reaching out and getting help. Hope you're coping ok, we're here for you. xx

The only time they will take a child due to a parents mental health problems is if the parent will not engage with or accept help and the baby is being neglected or put at risk. The threshold is high for that, the baby has to be in danger of harm.
You don't meet any of those criteria, OP so you have nothing to worry about.

If you needed inpatient treatment then she would be placed temporarily with a Foster carer while you got the treatment if none of her own family was available to mind her but a situation like that would be voluntary on your part and again the threshold for inpatient is very high as their aren't many beds available and from the sounds of it you are self aware enough to realise your own danger signs and ask for help well before it comes to that.

Reaching out for help yourself is a very positive step and a sign that you are capable of protecting yourself and your baby. You have absolutely nothing to fear from getting help, on the contrary you are doing incredibly well.