I don’t think it’s PND per se but I am struggling

[sheeponthewintermoor]

I have my 8 week post natal check (although baby is only 7 weeks) tomorrow and I do want to possibly raise with the GP although I’m not sure they’ll do much.

I have been blessed with a lovely baby who doesn’t sleep. Won’t nap during the day and obviously at night it’s very broken due to feeds. A typical night is like last night - sleeps from 9 till 1 (collapsed with exhaustion) and then feeds 1-130, then has to be held upright until 2, then I express milk for twenty minutes, wakes for another feed at 3. So I don’t get much rest!

That wouldn’t be a problem (totally expected) if I got a bit or downtime in the day, I don’t. He doesn’t sleep and believe me I’ve tried everything. Then there’s the odd good day where he does but mostly he just doesn’t.

And he won’t be put down. So I have lost a lot of weight, have cracked lips and nostrils from not drinking enough, dry patches everywhere.

It is starting to get to me as much as I’m trying to be positive.

Does anybody have any suggestions as to what I can mention to my GP?

Anyone? I haven’t put him down all day apart from one toilet trip

Hi OP.
I am suffering from absolutely debilitating PND. My daughter is now 5 months old (almost 6 months ), and is a very clingy baby too. They’re called Velcro babies I think my HV calls her. She won’t sleep anywhere other than on me, even in the day. The naps do get better though, have you got a sling ? That’s what I put my daughter in so I can at least get a drink. I’ve lost two stone (and I was a healthy weight before so it’s quite a loss) since having my daughter and I am suicidal . It’s taken almost 4 months of battling to finally get help but we have had to pay private in the end .
I still feel horrendous and do feel like it won’t get better but looking back to the early days where you are currently , the naps etc do improve . Use the app huckleberry , it helps know when baby is due a nap so you don’t miss that crucial window where they then get overtired and won’t sleep.
Please mention your worries tomorrow , don’t let it get how I’ve got. It’s miserable .
Here to chat if you fancy it

Sleep deprivation doesn’t help. It’s been used as a form of torture for many years but when people say sleep when baby sleeps, it really is impossible sometimes !