Therapist is fixated on me leaving my husband

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I have had around 6 sessions of therapy in relation to low self esteem, anxiety and depression and long running issues around eating/weight. My therapist and I spoke about my marriage and the fact it was not good during the first two sessions and she now seems to think this is the reason for all my issues, it doesn’t help but us certainly not the catalyst for my problems which have existed long before meeting my husband. Every session is now focused on how I can leave him. I really am mentally not in a good place at the moment, so wouldn’t even consider such a drastic move at this time, but she keeps returning to the same conversation. I have told her I struggle with boundaries, low self esteem and anxiety largely related to my childhood but she continues to follow the same theme. I am debating whether to stop the sessions, but they are free and I really can’t afford a private therapist and know I need to have therapy but like this it’s not really helping. Any suggestions?

Tell her firmly “ stop harping on, I’ve realised because you’ve done that that my problems predate my marriage. Can we please talk about that time period or shall I just walk out now?”

Can you ask to see a different therapist?

I took a deep breath reading your post wondering if you are my closest friend, but I know she doesn't go on this site. She has all the issues you mention. It does sound as though your therapist is moving very quickly. For my friend, all her pre-existing issues have been worsened by marrying a man who is a narcissist. I have watched him steadily lower her confidence, alienate most of her friends, make her utterly reliant on him and treat her terribly. It is coercive control. She, however, believes everything to be all her fault and can not cope with the idea of not being with him. I hope you continue with your therapy and wish you strength and confidence for the future.

Thank you for your replies, unfortunately I can’t see a different therapist, I waited more than a year to see this one so they are thin on the ground when it’s free.
roundcorners I feel for your friend. Our situations sound very similar although I finally understand what my husband is like and that it never was me with the issues , although I have my own problems but that has never caused me to be unkind or hurtful unlike him.